Lovelines

I am 25 and in love with a 22-year-old lady. It is now four years since we have been dating. God has blessed us with a son in the relationship and also with abundant love.

We intend to get married, but the main obstacle is that my parents don't want me to marry now. I have tried as much as I can to convince them, but to no avail. The other problem is the community we found ourselves in.

They don't want to see us together. Instead they poke their noses into our affairs by inventing different rumors just to keep us apart. In spite of these hurdles, we still remain in love. How can we solve these problems?

Jerry

To hit the nail on the head, I will advice you to go ahead and marry the love of your heart, which has bore you a son. What you need to do is to find out from your parents the main reason why they refuses to allow you to get married at your age, and with someone you understand and love.

Is it that they have another lady for you or they do not like the woman you have chosen, or whether they want you to remain a bachelor for life? To realize your dream, I suggest that you involve elders in your family (both families) to intervene in this issue.

If they refuse to listen to them and without cogent reasons, do not quarrel. As far as you have the consent of the lady's parents, look for one or two elders who understand you and tell them to take you to the Imam in your area. They will help you by talking to your parents.

Since there is a child involved in this matter, an Imam is the only one who can help you out if they do not want to oblige with you. I am very sure that with such interventions they will have no option. Let us not go deep; trust Allah and he will surely help you solve your problem. To the people in the community, tell them to jump in the River Gambia and forget about them. They are only jealous. Good luck!