Lovelines,

I am very much in love with a lady. I have been going out with her for over two years. For the sake of our strong love, I proposed to her. We both made promises to remain together till death do us part. My worry and question is: if her parents want her to get married to another guy, what should I do?   She once mentioned the possibility to me.

Basil

You ought to have faith in Almighty Allah. If your girlfriend's parents want her to marry another guy, there is nothing you can do other than to discuss and try to find a way forward with your girlfriend. This means you have to swing into action if you really want to marry her. If you are ready for marriage, then send your parents to her parents to do the right thing. But if you are not ready, let her go. There are no parents who wish to see their children's lives wasted. Good luck!

Her father sends me out

Lovelines,

We have a child out of wedlock and great love for each other. My major problem is the father of my girlfriend. He does not want to see me in his house. Each time I visit my son and the mother, he always sends me out. How can I please him? 
Corr

It is a pity that you are always sent out by your girlfriend's father. To please him, decide what you want to do with his daughter, your girlfriend and mother of your son. If you wish to marry her, let your parents ask for her parents' consent. But if you are not ready to marry her, reach an agreement with her. This will allow her to discuss with her father, so as to come up with a modality and possible solutions that will give you the chance to see your son.

The solution will resolve the predicament you are presently facing. Put yourself in her father's shoes, you will not like to see your daughter used and dumped by any man. Think and decide what you want to do. He will surely forgive you for your youthful misdemeanours. Good luck!

Inability to choose

Lovelines,

I am a young greedy man in love with 3 girls. They all love me deeply. The trio often showers me with gifts. Some of my friends want me to continue with the first girl while others want me to marry the second lady. But my mind is with the third one.
Badou

I beg you to stop risking your life and make a choice. No one can choose for you. Friends and others can only suggest to you. Forget about the materials and exotic gifts you receive from them on a regular basis and think about the real one you love among them.

Money or materials are ephemeral but love is eternal. Besides, you need to plan your life because if you fail to plan, you will plan to fail. Good luck!

I love the two men

Lovelines,

My problem is not just that I am dating two men at a go, but that they both want to marry me and I love both of them dearly.
Semirah

What you have and nurse for the two men is pseudo-love. There must be one that you prefer over the other one. You might find it difficult to choose between the two men because you derive different benefits from them.

So the earlier you choose, the better it will be for you. It is difficult for Lovelines to choose one for you because you know them better. Nothing lasts forever. Make a choice while you still have the opportunity. Time waits for nobody. Good luck!

I am in love with my cousin but we are scared

Lovelines,

I am in love with my cousin, but we are scared because our parents will not be happy if they find out. They believe that family marriages can bring problems between members of the family.
Mami

The earlier you end this relationship, the better it will be for the two of you.  That's if you don't want future emotional pain and embarrassment. What is forbidden is what is not acceptable. Quit before it is too late. There are many fish in the ocean. If you take your time you will definitely find someone else. Good luck!

He hurts me badly

Lovelines,

My mind is heavy because my fiancé hurt me. We were in love for two years, and I believed that he would marry me. Sincerely, he was not here throughout the two years. When he came back his parents arranged for him to marry someone else and he agreed. He was the only man I ever loved.
Tunko

There is no special advice that you need than to forget about it. It has become a dead relationship. Let bygones be bygones. Love is like war, easy to begin but hard to end. It is painful but you have to put it behind you and take it as if it never happened.

This is not a new thing especially for people who long to marry "Semseters".  It is part of the result of dating a man staying abroad. Most of these relationships end in a sad and hurtful manner.

There are many suitors out there looking for charming and beautiful ladies like you. The problem is ladies have eyes but sometimes they don't use them when it comes to choices, dating and marriage. They have ears, but some don't want to hear. But take heart. Good luck!

He said I don't love him

Lovelines,

I am a young girl dating a man whom I loved so much. But he always wants me to visit him. Since I am not free to visit as he wishes, he says I don't love him. This is not my fault because I am not allowed to go just anywhere. What am I to do now?
Titi

Love goes with rules. And taking these rules into consideration, you need to think of yourself, your partner, parents and the circumstances that guide the creation of the rules. So let your boyfriend know that 'love is patient and kind, it's not jealous or conceited or proud.' But if he doesn't want to be patient, then let him go.

Because you cannot satisfy him and disrespect your parents. One thing though, try to explain to him in detail how much you love him and your reasons for not being able to visit him as he wishes. Good luck!

What is your advice?

Lovelines,

I have a love problem. I have been dating someone for about 6 years. I have done the formal presentation and was planning to go ahead with the engagement before I met a girl I once desired to be with.

I love her so much and wish I could be with her but she is hooked up and knows my fiancée. I am confused because she occupies my mind every day. What is your advice?
Sanjal

If I must say the truth, you do not talk like a man who has made the right choice. If you have made one, no matter what, you will try to take your mind away from this lady. She has never accepted you.

I advise you to stay away from this woman who is also hooked up with another man. It is too early for you to think of someone else other than your fiancée. Good luck!

This boy does not look at me

Lovelines,

There is a boy that I am attracted to but he never seems to consider me. What should I do to make him like me or get him out of my mind?
Zainab

It is a simple matter of crosschecking past editions of Lovelines; you will surely find answers to your question. Better still, you can call Lovelines for more information. Good luck!

I am dating my friend's boyfriend!

Lovelines,

I am in love with my friend's boyfriend and whenever I talk about my friend before him, he gets offended. What should I do?
Khaddy

You sound like a traitor. I pity you because it does not seem as if this relationship will end well. If you still want to continue with him, stop talking about your friend in his presence. He seems to love her more. There is nothing more. Good luck!

Is it because I am poor?

Lovelines,

I am in love with a girl but she seems to hate me. I don't know whether it is because I am poor and she is rich.
Lamin

You don't need to force yourself on a lady when you notice that she does not love you. True love has little or nothing to do with financial status. The issue is that she does not like you. Period. Don't let her see you as a lounge lizard. Browse elsewhere for love. If she was interest in you, she would show it. Good luck!

My parents dislike our relationship

Lovelines,

I am 23 and I have been dating a man for over five years. During this period, he has been paying my school fees. Now that I have finished my education, my parents dislike our relationship. They have sent me out of the house. I don't know what to do.
Sunyoh

Oh, it is a pity. I know it is a bad experience but you are not the first person to experience this type of treatment from her parents. Try as much as possible to have a heart-to-heart discussion with this man and your parents. Ask him what he really wants from the relationship, which, I am sure, is a marriage.

If he wishes to marry you, tell him to make haste because you have been driven away from the house because of your love for him. Meanwhile, let your elders, brothers and sisters (if you have any) talk to your parents about this man and his kindness, caring, love and so on.

Your parents should not close the open on him now just because you are no longer in school. Ask for their reasons for saying no to this relationship. For more information call Lovelines. Good luck!

I always face disappointments

Lovelines,

I am a guy who always loves and cares about ladies. But ladies don't love me at all. I always face disappointments. Now I am a big guy but I don't have any serious relationship. I need your advice.
Morrow

I admired your courage on this issue. Sometime it is like that. Most women like to take caring man for granted. It is often difficult for some gentle and kind men to find likeminded partners. What you need to do is to keep calm; the real one that will love you more than expected will come. The only thing is that you should not judge all women with the same yardstick. If you do, you will find it tough to get the real one. For more advice, make a phone call. Good luck!

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Romantic text

Mariama,
People keep telling me that I am a lucky guy, and I keep wondering why. But I just realized now that it is you and no one else that I love.
Haroon.

Farouk
Without you, the stars are dull and my heart is sick, my temperature is high but with you around me, I am alive. My life is worth a million dollars. I love you.
Sally

Jatou,
Never mind what they say about us. I assure you by Allah's Grace, our dream shall surely come through.
Joe

Nyima,
Anytime you are not with me I feel like an empty barrel. Come over. I'll always love you.
Sal