Most women see their Romeo (husband, man friend or boyfriend) to be kind, romantic, lovely and exciting. This is mostly happening among women especially when the man is able to meet up with their requirements. But looking at things carefully, deep down their hearts majority, if not all women, they are worried because they thinks or knows that their men are 'taken' or 'haven' or 'cut' from other women's cake outside.

This is what some called 'unreachable chic tasty sweet potato.' This does make the women to keep thinking what the future holds for them to an extent that they can not always trust their men with any woman even teenager hence they are not ready to share or loose them to another hold and grip's hands.

Do I hear that you still don't understand what I mean? Okay, let's merry-go-round about this a little.

Has ever any married man say he loves you before or let it be from the horses mouth direct that is; 'he says he loves me
better than his wife.' What do you think about this? You only hear and believe what he says do you ever consider it as old
story? What so ever the case maybe research indicates that almost 60 percent of women believe any man that utter the
statement.

The fact is most men don't look for something better but something different. It is also known that men having affairs do it
just for themselves and to satisfy themselves only. You are not so special to such man. If he weren't with you, he would be
with another woman. Think of it so do not feel that you are on top of the world or superior than his incumbent wife.

Don't say I talk too much, if you sleep with your two eyes and relax on the couch with your full buttock mind you your
replacement could be around the corner and even closer than you ever can think. Sometimes he may only be using you to avoid
dealing with his own marital difficulties and to clear the thought that is occupying his mind. The painful reality is that
you are simply a convenient vehicle but without particulars.

Another thing that you are proud to say to your friends that ready to listen is that 'he can't bear or cope with his wife any
longer and will leave her for me.' Research shows it clearly that little above 50 percent of married men say this to their
lovers or concubine to cajole them. Many women in our society especially those that do not look before they leap or those
that are looking for ready made and well ready cooked 'benechin' stays in a limbo, and continue waiting painfully to hear the
word 'I've sent her away,' 'I am an African man I can marry any woman I like,' or 'I am head of my family, do no be afraid.'
Well, checking properly at the end only one percent of men do as they say.

In fact, if the man doesn't leave within three months, chances are he wouldn't. He will have plenty of excuses - he needs
time, he may lose his job, his wife and children will be miserable, he may lose his reputation in society.

The truth is that man can't leave because he has built his life around his family and will not sacrifice them for you. No
matter what he says or you think, you will remain second to his family. He might not lose anything.

Among married men sweet talks which is  like a love injection will make some women to say 'he is my soul mate and we will be
happier if we marry.' This is a paradise love dream. Your affairs may be exhilarating, exciting and passionate, but even if
he leaves his wife for you, it doesn't guarantee a fulfilling relationship if care is not taken sooner or later he will leave
you for another woman. Because studies show that marriages in such circumstances have five times chances of failure rate.

And the fact remains as, relationships built on deception and secrecy has no foundation. Both partners don't see each other as reliable. Both knows that each is capable of cheating.

So, what you must know when dating a married man is not a picnic or carnival show. You can only sneak around. It entails
restrictions, including giving up part of you and openly expressing your emotions to friends and family members. You don't
find him when you need him most. You can't have him all to yourself. You may also be stigmatized. He controls and conducts the
relationship. Your only choice is to accept or not.

To be continued



My family hates him

Lovelines,

I have a problem in my love life. I have been dating a guy for more than three years now and out of wedlock God bless us with
a daughter. I love this guy with all my heart. But my family hates him too much. They want me to get marry to another guy who
I don't even know just because he came from UK. I am 22 while the love of my heart is 25 working in one of the communication
companies. Help me!   

Horoja

You know what you need in life. And at your age I believe you can decide for yourself. Your family is your family but they
can not marry you. It's good to listen to them but they could be wrong at times. If you know that your lover, the father of
your daughter, will make you a happy woman, go for him. 

The only job is for both of you to be strong in love while you should try as much as possible to improve on your education or whatever work you are doing. Ask your family; was he not good enough for you all the while he was beside you till you were both blessed with your daughter? Let your parents and family understand this and forget about the sudden appear of the UK man. They will only push you to the relation and leave you after they have achieved their aims. Tell them all glitters are not gold because you are the one that involve if thing goes wrong they are going to desert you. Good luck!


Because his wife is unfaithful

Lovelines,

I have been going out with a man for two years before he told me that he was divorced with a child. Initially I inquired
from him before I agreed to the relation in which he replied in negative that he is not married. Now he told me that his
divorce wife has come back from UK. The woman actually stayed in his house. This arrangement was unknown to me.

One day the woman called and insulted me abundantly.  While my boyfriend accused me of insulting her. Luckily for them they remarried without my knowledge. When the woman has left for UK he came back to apologize. Three weeks later he realized that his wife is sleeping around with other men. Now he wants me to marry him only because his wife is unfaithful to him. Should I settle for the second best?

Suliyah

This is a decision that no one can take for you because this man is a big time liar. He is only tried to use you and later
when the opportunity come he is going to dump you like a used tissue paper. If a man can hide or deny a relationship that
fetched him a child just to say I love or I want you . because of love affairs, believe me such man is callous. Because it is
a hidden truth sooner or later it must be revealed. So it is because the woman is unfaithful that brought him back on his
kneel that he want to marry you? Well if you are ready to settle as the second fiddle and share him with another woman who
will continue to oppress you and shower abusive words on you go ahead. If you believe yourself and know what you worth and
want think twice and follow your heart. Good luck!


Our marriage plan always failed

Lovelines,

We were in love for ten years and for three consecutive times I have planed to wed her but all to no avail. Each of these wedding plans always fails in one way or the other because the lady's mother did not consent to this wedding. Now I am
married but we still love each other till date. What can you advice me?

Amadou

Forget about any intimacy between two of you so far you are marry. But if you know that you can marry and take care of two
wives, it is the time you should tell your lady to be strong and choose for herself since her mother is not a man that will marry her. Ten years relation is not easy to forget as that. But it will be difficult for you to fight for her love in two ways first you are married to another woman already that's you need support from the wife at home. If she did not support you which means you are going to hurt her. Secondly is the lady ready to go against her mother's wish? Think of these two things.

Since you ran away from this battle before why now? So you have to let her go and remain as a good friends, become her
adviser and guidance. But if it's Allah's wish both of you could have married. Good luck!


He always asks for sex

Lovelines,

There is a boy I love so much but he always asks for sex. I allowed him one day. The second day I visited him he requested
for it again but I refused him. Base on my refusal he has changed to me. Since that day each time I visit him he always asks
me to leave his house but I really love him. What can I do because I am dying for him?

Fanta

One thing is that sex and love are inseparable, like life and consciousness; we mustn't force sex to do the work of love or
love to do the work of sex but two of them shall always go together. Note that your boyfriend is interested in sex not love.
If he's interested in both what he should have done is to coax you with sweet talks that you will fall for but not to drive
you from his house because you don't want him to cut your cake for the second time or more. Let go his love from your mind.
Very soon you will find a lover that will understand you better even before he asks for it you will be thirsting for it all
in the name of love, respect and understanding. Good luck!


She is relaxing

Lovelines,

I love my girl friend too much. At the beginning it was love galore, she calls me moment to moment. But now she is relaxing a
lot about me because she is not calling like before again.

Ebou

One thing is that her less calls compare to when you just started does not mean that something has went wrong. But if you
want her to continue calling you from time to time why don't you supply her scratch cards and take record of how she call
you. What about you how many times do you call her in a day compare to how she calls you? What is her job? If she is not
working where do you expect her to get money to buy credit most times? So sit down with your babe and find out why she is
reducing in term of communication between you and her. Try to see to the cause of her relaxation when it comes to calls. Good
luck!


He says he love me

Lovelines,

We started as a friend not long ago, before I knew it he read the poem of love to my ears and said that he love me and I am
the best thing that will ever happen in his life. My concerned is that I am not too sure of what he is saying. I don't want
to move into a relationship just like that. I want to be sure if he truly loves me beside I want a man that is trustworthy
because I do not want to date for dating sake but for real.

Musu

Take your time to examine this man. Check out what he is, his past relations, if possible know about his family if you really
want to know how genuine, trustworthy and honest he is. Some men are with sugar coated mouths. Since you want to date for
real never you rush into relation no matter how you are interested in the man. At least pretends not to fancy his love but
friendship. If you play your card very well, you will become his master of love. Good luck!


I don't like kissing my sweet babe

Lovelines,

It is a very difficult task for me to achieve. I always try to avoid kissing my girl friend even not to see her for at least
one month or more but it is difficult for me to do. Please I need a guideline to help me handle the issue.  

Niachou

Though you did not mentioned the motive behind this but this is one of the simplest things to do. Once she come to your house
and she want you to kiss or you are about to kiss her tell her that 'I don't like kissing you because your mouth smells.' And
to avoid seeing her for a month or more, try to develop hatred for her or imagine her sleeping with another man. These two
things will work like when marabous appease goddess for you. Good luck!


I want to reconcile with her

Lovelines,

I am a boy of 20. I suffered too much before I got my first date who I love most. The relationship does not last long still I
want to reconcile with her but I do not know where to start.

Musa

It is almost difficult for me to answer you right since I do not know what cut short the relationship that you had toiled
for, for so long before you become a lucky guy on your first dated lady. But you can start with sending her a lovely text and
explicit more about your feelings for her. Buy are some love expression cards, Rose flower and call her for outing whereby
you can both sit down and discuss about it. If she will not honor your outing give her midnight's calls and beg her then tell
her you want her back to your incomplete life because without her you are like a car without engine. Try this and see. Good
luck!

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