Lovelines,

It is over one year that I have been dating a girl. We love ourselves deeply and intend to get marry. Since our parents all aware of our intention, we prepared a written document our intention in duplicate form which we both signed.

We are always happy and proud of each other. I help her in everything except financial hence I am not in the position. What can I do to know that she really love and care for me as I do and to know if she will not betray me as I always risk my life to do some certain things for her and her family?

Matlock

With love everything is possible. But what you have done is more or less an oath that some lovers do make when love is intoxicating them. Already she loves you that are one of the reasons that made her to sign a paper and agreed to marry you. To know if she will betray you or not, I can't say because you are the one that knows how things are going on between you and her, beside I am not a soothsayer. Take your time love is a familiar, love is a devil, there is no evil angel but love. Remember love is blind, and lovers cannot see the pretty follies that they commit. Good luck!

Do you think he loves me?

Lovelines,

I never want to have sex until I get marry. But a man who I fell in loves with 3-month ago want me to do it with him. However I told him that I am still a virgin but does not believe me. Do you think this man loves me or he just want to have sex and dump me like a paper into a dustbin because I never want to trust any man. 

Ccy-girl

Most time I used to be surprised hearing a matured girl having a boyfriend and capable to identify her right hand from left hand saying she doesn't want to have sex. One thing that the Holy books (Quran and Bible) teach is that there is nothing like boyfriend or girlfriend but marriage. Be sincere by asking yourself questions and give a genuine answer to this question why do you date? Is it because of friendship, intimacy, companion, for fun or you just seeing people dating and you are dating? Most men and women do make this mistake at the same time saying "I can't trust any man," or "I can't trust any woman." Then who will trust who? It is either you fall in or you fall out. Which means if your boyfriend his disturbing you with sex and you are not ready to do it quit the relation and wait till you are ready because he want it and he will never stop asking for it while you can not resist always. Good luck!

He never says it to me

Lovelines,

I am a girl of 19 years dating a man for 5 months. I love him so much but I don't know whether he loves me because he never says it to me. 

Caroline

Yes, it is a simple matter many don't know how to say it because they are ashamed, some don't say it because they do not want to commit themselves, still some does not say it because they need fun. If it is true you love him you too should always say the three words to him maybe he will learn from you. If he doesn't ask him whether he love you or not and if he say yes ask him why he never say it to you as you always tell him. Good luck!

My friend is eyeing my babe

Lovelines,

I have been dating a girl for almost 3 years. Recently, one of my best friends is eyeing her; now, if I call her she will not answer my call neither will she calls me. So what can I do?

King

It is obvious that some friends do take over their friend's lover especially when they are used to each other. What you need to do is to forget about the girl because she is not honest. If she is honest no matter how rich, handsome, or whatsoever, she should not accept to your friend proposal and if your friend is a good person and best friend as you said, he should not take over your girlfriend. In a nutshell two of them are bad egg and betrayal. Forget about them and check out for a discipline suitable girl. Good luck!

She loves me but pretends not

Lovelines,

I am boy 19 chasing a girl whom pretends not to love me, but she calls and text me all the time. How would I know her mind?

Pa Sanneh

If it is true that you know that she pretend not to love you while you know that she did, then there is nothing to tell you again than you should add more comic, seriousness and determination to your method of approach. Good luck!

He says he really love me

Lovelines,

I am a girl of 20 in a relationship with a guy. He says he really love me, ready to meet my parents at anytime. I love him too. Please tell me something that will show if a man really loves me.

Ch-girl

Read the Lovelines issues of May 30 which deal with "how to know if he /she love you," or you phone Lovelines for explanation. Good luck!

She always says no chance

Lovelines,

I am dating a girl but when I ask her to come she always say no chance. I don't know why?

Lampard

You have to know that love need acceptance, time, endurance, and ability to observe and reason with the observation you make. Use your brain, it might be true that she is not having chance but it depend on how you are playing your card. Moreover she might be timid and a first timer. It is you as a man that will help her to create chances. Talk to her one on one. Beside how often do you visit her in their compound? Think of it. Good luck!

I caused everything

Lovelines,

Have been dating a girl for almost one year but we broke up and she started dating a guy I really love her and want her back. Though I caused everything am 23 waiting for your reply.

Badou

Since you realized that you are the caused of everything, why don't you go and talk to her face to face and apologize for any emotional pain you might have caused her. Tell her that you have realized your mistake and how deep you hurt her feeling, it will never happen again. Promise her and send her some love wonderful present not costly things but what you think she will cherish for reconciliation. Good luck!

He does not have my time

Lovelines,

I am in love with a man who doesn't have my time. Our relationship is three years what can I do now?

Oumie

I advise you to stop wasting your time and energy for someone that doesn't have your time. We don't love just because others are in love or dates. We love to be together, share our problem together, to be there and care for each other. Good luck!

My ex asked me a question

Lovelines,

I am 20 dating a gal. Sometimes ago we broke up over a stupid argument. So far, I realized that a guy in my class is asking her out. I tried to confirm this from her instead of a straight answer she wants me to tell her direct from my heart if I really want her to go out with the boy and whether I still love her. I don't know what to say because I felt it for her but if I say I love her other guy will dislike me what should I do.

Sallah

I really don't understand your stand on this matter. You do not let me know if you are still interest in this girl or you are pity her love condition or you are fighting for your rival who won the heart of this girl from you. Anyway I think it is better to decide on her then call me for a suitable answer. Good luck!

I need your advice

Lovelines,

I am in a 3-year-old relationship with a guy that we both love each other.  He has suddenly changed and shows lack of interest in the relation compare to before. He has stopped calling me despite that he has access to free call. When I call him he will sound normal but not from the bottom of his heart.

Dagain

Well if things goes as you mentioned what is appropriate is to have a heart to heart talk with your man and ask him reason for his sudden changes towards you. Let him tell you direct if he does not have interest in you again than pretending to you. The earlier you find out what he has in his mind the better so that you can plan for yourself. Good luck!

Now I am free for another man

Lovelines,

I have a boyfriend whom I have been dating for 6 years. He impregnated another girl last year, still we continue our love but he never mistake and talk about our future. I do not have any hope that he will marry me. I thought over this many times and stop going to his house and I don't call him. Now am free, I don't think of him anymore while I am now finding another man who will love me and ready to marry me.

Maie

Well give a call if you want Lovelines to introduce you to the love of your heart. Good luck!

His siblings hate me

Lovelines,

I am a lady of 22 and got marry to a young man over 18-month ago. We are blessed with a child. He said he love me still he is still following his ex girlfriend. His brothers and sisters hate me without any reason, still I love him. Is there a solution to this?

Macha

Really I can't say parse what might have caused your husband still flirting after his former girlfriend when you are legally married to him, although there are circumstances that can lead to this you can phone me to know that. But I will like to put it to you that you are the caused of your problem. My reason for this answer is that during your courtship period with your husband you should have known better then his love measure for you and type of person he is. Secondly your relationship with the family, if between you and them is good or not, that is if they like and welcome you to their family.

It shouldn't be now that you got married less than two years with a child that you should know that they hate you. Moreover, if they love and welcome you to the family at the beginning and now they hate you while your husband continues flirting after his former girlfriend without nobody to correct or advice him it means two things.

One, maybe he's the champion of the house, two, maybe yourself is having a problem with them that you need to correct yourself. Because no matter how bad his siblings are, you must have one of them as your confidence that will be your reckoning. So check yourself for correction and call your husband to sit for a chat since he still says that he loves you. Ask him what might be the caused of the hatred between you and his siblings at the same time try to know what his girlfriend is doing or offering him that you lack.

Try to be more romantic to your husband so that you can full and win his heart. This is the only way you can create U-turn in his heart and get back what belong to you. To the family try as much as possible to impress, create and make friends with them for acceptance. The earlier you use your brain and become friendly with them the better. Good luck!

She says she loves me more

Lovelines,

Before I fell in love with her she was dating a guy but she told me that she loves me more than him. She call and text me everyday and visit me twice in a week.  She said the boy is not honest with her because she caught him with another girl. I told him to forget the boy and concentrate on me alone but she said she can't call off the relationship between two of them but that she love me more while I trust her that she love me.

Landing

You have no gut to complain than to continue enjoy your love life with her. But I surely believe that two of you are just playing game. If she really loves you he will abandon the guy for you and if you are serious you will not be there and allowing your lover telling you he can not leave your rival for you despite she knows that he is not sincere with her. While you are still saying you love her.

Since the love is still over floating in the veins of you two, I advice you continue but the girl is the one to lose and possibly yourself will have emotional crackdown not only pain at the end. Unless you quickly think about the love you have for her. It is illogical expression, think about it. Good luck!

He like sexual activities discussion

Lovelines,

He wants to have sex with me and I am a virgin. We love each other so much but anytime we are chat he always talks about sex matter. Still I want to maintain my virginity.

Emah

If you really want to maintain your virginity and you know that you do not enjoy his sexual activities talk, quit the relation. Better still stop having boyfriend till you are ready for the game. Nowadays, no matter how holy a boy or man is, once you as a young girl or woman, they must talk about sex and want to engage you in sexual action and coerce you to have sex with them. Sex and love are inseparable; it is really a body chemistry that no one can still over come without strong determination. Good luck!

How can I approach her?

Lovelines,

I have seen a girl whom I love but I don't know how to approach her.

MC-Ross

Well it is a simple thing that does not warrant do or die. Just summon courage and be confidence. Compose yourself before her but not overly. Try as much as possible to speak to her in the language you wish if it is English make it simple and correct sentences. When you across or stop her, give her a good compliment and show your admiration.

Then through her expression beg her to allow you to make use of 2-3 minutes of her precious time then hit the nail on the head by telling her that you are interested in her and want her to be your lover. If possible you are the shy type because you know her before invite her for outing either a lunch, dinner or for rendezvous. Remember no exaggeration or self promotion. Good luck!