Lovelines
We have been in love for the past 6 years. And through the years we were platonic lovers. Now she dislikes everything I do. If I ask her what is the matter she always answers 'nothing.'

Malick

If something like this suddenly happens in a relationship of 6 years, it can be analysed in three ways. First, she might not take you seriously because you have not proposed to marry her; two, because it is a long time relationship without basis. She might have started dating someone serious and ready to marry her. Third, there must be something you have not been doing before but you are now doing; probably it hurts her. You have asked her what the problem is and she says nothing, which means you fall between the first two and she needs a change. So think deep, search your mind for the third option. Possibly ask her about the above two. Good luck!

Sharing my boyfriend

Lovelines

I am 23-year-old lady dating a guy of 26. I love this guy so much that I will not do anything that will hurt him. Recently, I was informed by a friend that she saw him with another girl. I did not believe this but my cousin confirmed it on different occasions. I still refused to believe their information. Surprisingly, I was listening to one of the radio stations when I heard the same girl they told me about sending a 'shout out' to my boyfriend. I asked him about this but he denied the relation. I love him because he is my first lover.

Marty

Since he denied this, just try as much as possible to become a self-detective so that you can see things for yourself. And if you finally catch him in this act of untrustworthiness, you have options. First, you can give him another chance; second, you can kiss him goodbye. But do not let him be aware of the fact that you are watching him until you capture him and have proof. Good luck!


Eight-year relation

Lovelines

In an eight-year relation, I can't say if my gal loves me or not. I am 30 and she is 25. In the years 2004, 2006 and 2007 I asked for her hand in marriage and she told me to wait. How long will I continue to wait?

Nanah-Boy

It is your utmost duty to sit down and discuss it with her. She might have some reasons that are holding her back from marriage. But if you know that you are ready or can't wait, tell her your mind: that you cannot continue with this endless waiting. But I think a woman you have vainly asked for consent to marry three consecutive times must have one or two reasons for not complying with you. So search your soul and take a decision. Good luck!

We have a child already

Lovelines

My girlfriend had a child for me 3 years ago before we broke up. I fell in love with another girl and promised to marry her. Recently, my mind went back to the mother of my child. I want to marry her for the sake of our son while I don't want to hurt the feelings of my present girlfriend.

Jonathan

I will advice you to think carefully to avoid a mistake that you might regret. Think about who you love and respect among the two and the one that reciprocates your love and respect. Marriage is a lifelong institution that when you enter, you should not think of getting out of. Normally the majority will support you in marrying the mother of your child for the sake of his proper upbringing and parental care. However, you are the one who can personally assess the two of them. So think and evaluate your relationship between the two and make a good choice. Good luck!

I am older than him

Lovelines

I am three months older than my boyfriend. But when you look at us, physically, he looks older than I am. He chased me for six months before I agreed to date him. The relation is about two months. We do have a good time together but there is always misunderstanding between the two of us which is too early and I thought that the early part of relationship is always charming and enjoyable.

Kinneh

Don't be confused, it is just that the two of you need time to study and understand each other. Study him and try to understand what he likes and does not likes. Discuss this issue with him. Remind him how good a friend both of you used to be before you accepted him. He will change when you discuss with him in a serious mood, if he does not, take a remedy pill before you regret dating him. Probably he might be suffering from immaturity. Good luck!


His father says no, but mother forces me

Lovelines

I have been dating a guy for 9 years now. He always asks me if I will marry him. I always reply positively. One man came to my mum and asked for her consent for his son to marry me. But this guy is dating someone else. However, his father says no to his choice while my mother is forcing me to marry the guy. I love my boyfriend because he loves, respects and always advises me to keep my virginity until I marry.

Mba-Fatou

Looking at things you are longer a teenager. Nine years is not nine months or nine weeks. It will be better if you and the guy can sit down and discuss over it to enable you to decide what to do because you both know whom you love and want. Come up with genuine reasons to convince your parents. They can't force both of you at the same time. Let your yes be yes and no be no. Good luck!

I am having a problem

Lovelines

I am having a problem because any lady I ask out always rejects me. There is one I am interested in now but I don't know how to go about it.

Bakary

Indeed you are having a problem. Your problem is that you are not confident enough to stand before a woman to express yourself without panic. Try as much as possible to have self-composure before you chat up a woman. Major thing, try to add a little humor and think fast when approaching any lady. Good luck!

My friend's ex

Lovelines,

I had a date with my friend's ex when she was on holiday in the country. It was my friend who was dating her before they both traveled to Europe. But they ended the relation some months back.

James

This is not a new thing but it is a very bad act. You should not have done that, remember trust. How are you sure that they have ended the relationship? This act shows that you had been thirsting for her love. In future, distance yourself from such acts. Good luck!

I sponsored her for 5 years

Lovelines

I sponsored a girl for 5 good years with a promise that we are going to marry. Now that I am ready, I requested for her hand in marriage, the uncle refused. He said if she marries me he would send her away from the compound. This is due to the fact that the uncle himself loves the girl.

Jadama

You might be wrong about your last statement. The fact that he threatened to send her away from his house does not mean he wants her for himself. You might be right also but wait till he brings it out. What is necessary now is to make peace with the uncle and let the girl talk to her parents on this issue. But if they are adamant, then let the girl follow her heart and make her own decision. Moreover, if she loves you, she will be ready to leave the uncle's house and follow you for life. But if it is the other way round, take heart, forget and forgive, you will surely come across the love of your heart. Good luck!

I was raped

Lovelines

I am an underaged girl. Two months ago our driver raped me and left for his home town. I did not tell my mum about this. This driver has come back while my mum is ready to go back to Europe. I am afraid because I am not going with my mum this time. I will be at home with my aunt and this driver. Please help me.

(Name withheld)

This is one of the traumas rape causes for the victim, fear. Also, this fear is one of the reasons that you should have thought about reporting this matter to your mother when it happened. What is right for you to do at this moment is to talk to your mother about it. If she is has traveled already, inform your aunt about this. If you do not report him, he will come to dominate you and turn you into a sex slave in the house. Once again, do not be silent over this issue. Inform your mother at once and go for a medical check up. Good luck!