Lovelines
I am a young girl of 22 years. Men that are interested in me are my teachers, which I do not subscribe to. I want a suitable partner who is ready to be my life partner. I don't want a man who thinks only about himself.
(Name withheld)

It is the number one aim of any mature girl to find and get married to the love of her heart. Are you a serious girl who is ready to settle down, or  have you been searching for the love of your heart for a very long time without any success? This could be your chance. Pick up your phone and make the call as Lovelines waits to link you up. Only a serious and determined man should call. Good luck!

Lovelines
It is just one year now since I got married to my wife whom I love with my heart. But now I am facing a big disappointment from her because she is showing me some infidelity behaviours. She has a boyfriend and they call each other all the time. This has gone to the extent that she longer hides it from me. When I ask whom she always talk with on the phone she will reply, "it is a friend."  
   
I wanted to take her to my family for a holiday but I am not comfortable with her infidelity acts because if I do I will surely disappoint my parents as they do not know anything about this behaviour and attitude of hers. What should I do because I really love her?
Faal

This is indeed a pitifull situation. This has revealed that there is no love and respect existing between you. If your wife is really sure and it is true that the man is just a mere friend as she claims, there is need for her to invite him home so that you can know a friend that is so close to your wife. I wonder what has kept you from letting your parents know your wife for a year now. This is your harbinger because I do not think your brothers and sisters know her as well.

To be on a safe side call your wife to a  talk and ask her if she is not interested in the marriage anymore. You can still redeem your marriage from collapsing because there is no room that  is too small when there is love.  Because love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit. So try to talk to her about this habit of hers but  if she continues, talk to her parents about it.

Still if she refuses to love and accept you as her only husband and stop dating other man beside you, let her choose between you and the man. If she chooses you fine and if not, make a decision and follow your heart. You can call Lovelines for more info. Good luck!

Lovelines
I do not know where I have gone wrong with my friend. We have been friends for over three years, until few months back when one of his younger sisters told me that she loves me.  I told her that she is like my own sister, but  the girl replied "that was then when I was young, now I am big enough to make a choice."  

She said it was a long time ago since she fell in love with me but could not tell me. Few weeks later she told her brother in the  presence of our other friends that she is in love with me. Since then my friend is not happy with me because I can see this in his behaviour towards me. What can I do?
Dobson

Unfortunately you do not specify her age and yours, and I do not know if you too love her or accept to be her boyfriend. However, before going further, you should know, and let the girl and your friend know that love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime.

Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day.  Call your friend and let him know your stance. You need not to hide your feeling about this if you want to keep peace among youselves. That's, you should say the truth. And if you love  herm, confess and talk to your friend about how it all happened. So this will peace among you. Good luck!

Lovelines
I have been trying to win a girl's love for sometime now, but she is proving too hard. I love her but I do not know why she does not want to be my lover.  You have to help me.
Easy-boy

Well you have to be yourself. It is not a matter that the one love  should love you too. If you express your love to a lady and she refuses let her go and look out for another. Your insisting on winning her love will make her so important and feel proud. She might in future flirt around you if you give her a break and pay less attention to her. This will bring respect and she will know that you are a man of dignity. Think about this. Good luck!  

Lovelines
I just received a shock of my life from my boyfriend whom I so much cherished and adored. We have been dating for 2 years and each time I am with him he always receives calls from numerous women and when I ask who is calling she will say they are neighbours or friends.  I always accept and believe him because I love him. I accept all these girls calling but I distaste only one, she is married and she was his ex.  

During the week, he gave me his key to clean his apartment for him. During the course of the cleaning I found a digital camera. I scrolled through this digital camera where I saw different girls' picture. He snapped some of the pictures with the girls in his room and somewhere else.  Among was a picture he snapped while kissing the married woman, his ex girlfriend.  I deleted all these pictures.

Can you imagine, two days later he came and asked why did I search his wardrobe and later accused me of stealing his D3000. I did not still his money neither did I searched his wardrobe. But I saw the camera while cleaning the house, which was done according to his instruction. Now he requested that we should break up. Can you please help me I am confused.
Matta

As old as you are with the level of your education, I don't think you need to ask what to do with this man. He has called off the relationship, let it be so and give him a farewell kiss for life.

A man who does not respect you and dates numerous girls and going to an extent of folowing  his ex girlfriend who is even married, is nothing but a callous and Casanova. Adding insult to injury, he  accused you of theft. Come on girl, you should know that he is tired of you and no more in love with you. If you continue with him you will suffer from emotional pain and this will result to emotional crack.

In brief as you have said, let him know you do not take his money and let him stop accusing you. His accusation has shown that he is not 'man enough.' As a professional health worker you need to stay away from a man that  keeps chains of women because you know the hazard better than anyone. Good luck!