He always makes me cry

Lovelines,

               I deeply love my boyfriend but he made me cry always. I am older than him with almost 2-year and we have been dating for 3 years. The guy flirted after me for over a year before I considered him and since we started dating he always made me cry like immature housewife. Sincerely, I love and gave him food, recharge his mobile with credit, put some money in his pocket, and clothed him when necessary even satisfied him sexually. Upon all these he will still give me problem.

He told me that he has another girlfriend which I do not object to or jealous but he always oppressed me with this girl and sometimes insulted me. I never met this girl but he always put her matter before me. To avoid his insult, many times I have tried to break up with him but he will come back to my life after two or three weeks. And when he comes back I found it difficult to resist him. I am tired of his problem and insult.

Yarimat

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One among things to avoid in making a good relation going on fine without imbroglio is insult. Insult is disrespectful acts that reduce dignity among two partners as it can make the sufferer undergo some serious emotional pains. In love age difference is nothing but what matter most is the maturity which is not base on what most guys think of ‘sex,’ ‘physical appearance,’ ‘age,’ and so on.

But maturity in a relationship is ability to take charge of situation between you and your partner; ability to think and reason wisely as relate to your future and of the family you want to make or making among other things. On careful look of your message and conversation, the guy is just after his interest because he is not ready to leave the other girl for you. And he will not let you go because of your tolerance and what he is getting from you as well.

He is playing on your kindness and your total submission to him which is among the reasons he insulted you and makes you cry because it is your weakness. You found it difficult to walk away from him because he know your secret, weakness, and this weakness he knows is that you got know other boyfriend except him. So he can handle you and tune you like FM radio station at his own will.

If you have really make up your mind and ready to walk away from the relation say it to his face and let him that you are tired of the relation. Stop calling and answering to his call, stop seeing him and put an end to his coming to your house but it does not stop you being friend. Above all since you cannot resist his feeling avoid been left alone with him some areas, know what I mean! Good luck!

I am dating my niece

Lovelines,

               I am dating my niece, we love ourselves very much. Her mum who is my first cousin appreciates our relationship and really wants me to marry her daughter. Sincerely I want to marry her but I am also interested in another girl I have been dating for some times. We have both promised to make it to the altar. Tell me what you think I should do.

Samba

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Your heart is the best adviser here because you have a choice already but indecision is your problem. All you need to do is to make a decision because you are the one dating the too and the one that know the best among the two. The only thing I can suggest is that you compare the two and make a choice. If you choose your niece fine and if it is your other girl okay but get ready to face your cousin on this because she already accorded you the opportunity of you marrying her daughter which you never decline. The earlier you choose between the two and stop giving them false hope the better. Good luck!

He plans to marry me but never sleep with me

Lovelines,

               I have a lovely man friend that we are deeply in love, a married man for that matter. We have been dating for almost a year and he promised to marry me but he never one day ask or take me to bed.We are okay together but the only problem is that he does not used to take care of me; I mean give me money or buy thing for me. Even when I asked and he is a rich man with foreign citizenship, but he is a Gambian. Everyone especially my relatives advised me to part away with him because he is not taking care of me. What should I do?

Nabou

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Love is a thing from the heart and if you find one stick to it. This man has never one day ask you in or complain of anything about you which has made you comfortable with him for almost a year despite his stinginess. Giving you money or walking away from him as your relatives are saying is not the primary here but your acceptance and willingness to marry him hence is a married man.

Secondly the love you are both nursing for each other how genuine it is, think about these two things. I believe you understand his character a little bit especially when it comes to spending for a woman. To put you in a right direction, it will be better for you to sit down with your man or fiancé if I may say, discuss about this his close-fisted act. Really, we always say money is not everything. Yes, but at the same time love without money or little spending nowadays, sooner or later will hit the rock. If your lover is penniless or a little bit affected by financial crunch, it is acceptable but if no, it is unacceptable.

This is because Almighty Allah wants us to take care of our partner, man or woman. In brief try to know his final conclusion about your dating him and more importantly let him know how unhappy you are for his not caring about you financially. Tell him that you want him to change his parsimonious act because if you can understand him not everyone will especially your parents who might have believe that your responsibility is his. If he answers you positively fine and if he does not, follow your heart. Good luck!

I cannot express my feeling

Lovelines,

               I am a young man of 20 my problem is that I cannot express my feelings to any girl I am attracted to. In particular there is a girl I am interested and she knew this still I cannot express my feeling to her or chat with her by telling her words that will make her happy.

Ezekiel

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There is no one to teach you how to fight when you are slapped than courage and confidence. So, this lady or any other ladies that you know you are attracted, fancy or want, try to summon courage and be confidence of yourself to confront her. As such woman cannot kill you. Common ‘hi Angel…you’re looking different,’ can start the chat or conversation. With your listening ability, try to be a bit witty and hilarious as you are walking along with her on the terrace.

Say something that is catchy and fascinating that will make her want to listen and gradually make your feeling known to her. Without much ado I know you will get one of the answers that will make you happy. Bare it in mind that she might say yes or no but it is not the end of everything; because love is something develop and as it grow you enjoy the benefit. Good luck!

I am not myself anymore

Lovelines,

               I have not been myself for over 6 weeks now just because of a lady that is difficult for me to forget. Her unique name and her uncommon beauty that made her different from other lady have instilled itself deep down my heart. I have not been serious with any lady like this earlier before now. This is because I never know what they call true love, but now I think I know.

This imaginable girl, I have falls for her but she does not care about me because she did not give me a chance to chat or chill out with her. She refused to answer my calls or return my SMS messages even if we meet he will walk out from me. What pain me most is that she does not exchange words with me. Why is she silence on this important issue that is causing me sleepless night?

Kajali

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Her keeping silence on what you called an important issue that is not important to her is because she is not interested in dating you. You have tried all you can to get her and still she is proofing classy or big, pal, I will advice you to step up. Browse elsewhere and look for someone better than her to fall in love with. By the time she would like to see the good side of you or interested in you, you will be classy, too, and it will be too late for her.

Love is not a do or dies affair. Remember if a vehicle refused going to Basse, thousands of it will definitely go. So wake up and do not let her beauty or whatever way you down because if she accepted and you later have misunderstanding she will say you are the one running after her; think. Good luck!

My boyfriend wants me to release him

Lovelines,

               It is so interesting to hear that my boyfriend is begging me to release him. When I asked what to do to release him, he was asking for something that I cannot offer him now because I am a virgin. He coerced me but I do not fall for his coercion now he is trying to force me. Tell me what to do to convince him because I love him.

Penda

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Really, it is interesting to hear that a man is asking you to release him by sleeping with him. What you can use to convince him as you asked is nothing than the love you have for him. Tell him if he loves you let him wait for you until you are ready for it. Better still if you both deeply love each other let him make his intention known to your parent and they tie the marriage so he can have what he want from you on regular basis without condition. However, if both of you are not ready for marriage and notice that the pressure is too much for you to handle you have to stay on your own till he ready to wait for you; love is a give and take that requires the consent of both parties that involve. Good luck!

I don’t have any girlfriend

Lovelines,

I am a young student and my problem is that since I left my last girlfriend in year 2009 I do not have any other girlfriend. Any girl that I approached all turned me down. I am confused and I do not know what to do.

Martin

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This is not a problem as you thought. All you need to do is to be yourself when you are approaching a girl you find attractive to you. Try to change your style of approach and present yourself in a decent and remarkable way. Your appearance, presentation and words that come out from you count much when if you really want to be heard and make impression on a girl or any woman.

This is because every woman like a man knows what she really wants from a man. Make a correction, step up your manner of appearance, speaking, and approach to woman. Some boys believe that girls are cheap to get and why can’t they get theirs? But not as easy as that, so learn the technique of approach as this will help you. More so, you should not give up because of disappointment you get from girls when you approach them.

But think about what you tell them and their answers, how you present it to them, your appearance and the situation at the time of the approach. These will help you to change your style and compose yourself in a well and acceptance form that will favor you. Remember for every handsome man there is eye to see him, and for every true lover there is heart to beep and receive him or her. So do not let disapproval you get from girls weigh you down, your lover is on the way. Good luck!