Bed romance problem!!!

Lovelines,

                Sincerely, I always have problem with my boyfriends. And the cause of this problem is nothing more than bed romance palaver. Each time I break up with a guy it is because of this. Recently or about two months ago to be precise, I broke up with my guy again and it was all about me not ready to romance him or have romance with him. My question is can romance lead to pregnancy, please?

Ida

Sometimes, but it depend on type of romance you engage yourself in or that you mean, because there is harmless romance and there is deep and hot romance. So you have a choice here. Let us go by it one after the other. Having harmless romance is when you have a peck, cuddle each other, and hold each others hand to stroll, sitting beside each other with light touch as you chat, threshing-out, among other things.

All these cannot lead to pregnancy but will only make you wanting and missing each other. Deep and hot romance as the name goes is sometimes dangerous for the innocent and immature lovers especially girls as it can quickly make you engage in what can open you into what father and mother are doing.

This is because deep and hot romance is far beyond pecking, holding each other or bed chatting. Hot or deep romance between two lovers is when you canoodling, fingering, touching and caressing some certain parts of your body that will arise your feeling as this can lead to sexual intercourse. So also some ladies are still virgin but always nude on bed with their boyfriends with or without penetration they can get pregnant during this process if they are not protected and the man ejaculate.

That is if the man mistakenly release semen on the girl’s private part and if it is such girl ovulation period, glory be to God, it can lead to pregnancy. You can call for deep explanation over this as well seeks for orthodox doctor opinion. More over, the more you involve in deep or hot romance, the more you will expose to and be willing to fondle, penetrate and reach orgasm. So I will advice you that if you are not ready limit everything at harmless romance. But if you are mature enough to handle the situation then you can step up your romance a bit. But remember, love that always start with sweet kiss, can equally end with tear drop. Good luck!

My friend flirts around our daughter

Lovelines,

               I must confess that I envy your sense of attentiveness and judgmental in handling some of the relationship issues come your way. Sincerely both my wife and I are well educated couple. We are socialite and as well religious someone for that matter. I would like you to ship in your advice on this case of ours. We have been staying outside the country for a while before coming back home to settle down, though our children are outside schooling but always here on holidays.

Our number three child, 20, currently studying medicine is going out with an old friend of mine and we are truly confused about this. We have tried everything to discourage her from this but all to no avail. I hardly sleep each time I think of this because it is bringing conflict between me and the mother. My friend seems to be shameless over this important issue. My daughter is making thing not easy for us, too, as she is claiming to love him and that we are selfish because we are not thinking about are feeling and happiness.

To avoid our present when we travel to see her and other children, she moved out of the apartment to stay with a friend. She said she has made a mistake to have let us know that she is in love with this my so called friend who is just saying ‘give us chance, and forget about friendship or age different.’ Can you imagine! Though my friend has never married before but the age difference is what I cannot condone, it is irritating.

Solomon

Hmm, I can understand your situation. It is not easy but you need what Arab called ‘sobir’ – patience to solve this matter. This is because a bowl of hot pap requires patience if you do not want to burn not only your tongue but the whole mouth. It is true that your friend cannot wait for your daughter to grow before grappling her from you. Both of them knows your feeling but if you might have opportune to listen to one of the Celine Dion tracks ‘have you ever been in love’ you will know how they are feeling.

So what you can do as a good believer is to sit down your wife and make are to understand as follower of ‘sunat’ of the Prophet Muhammad ‘SAW’ that she should be patient because sometimes a relationship with a wide age difference can work and be fruitful especially when you are not forcing them on each other. Perhaps it will take you sometimes to convince her to understand and overcome this especially when the man is your friend. But as educated fellow let her know that hence none of you is to choose suitor for her than wanting the best for her.

I know you two will not like to lose your daughter, so be careful as her reaction might make you to regret. Do not be too strict on her because she is still young and one thing in her mind is to prove to you that she is right even if the relationship might not last forever. However, when there is love age difference is just a number. But you should also think that a well known devil is better than an angel that we do not hear about. Again to avoid the conflict this has caused between you and her mother, I want you to have a deep mother and father, husband and wife and one heart family discussion over this in order to put an end to the conflict between you and let everything back to normal again.

I know you want a happy home and if I am right for the sake of the other children and in the name of unity dialogue is important. Should in case both of you are ranting and nagging in the house, obviously happiness and solution will be far away from your family probably forever. So two of you should accept this with open mind because they might be destined to be a good couple and once they lose each other it is possible they might not regain each other.

On final note talk to your daughter about this and why you do not want them together but if she insist give your blessing and let her know that you are always there for her. To your friend let him know that your daughter is a jewel to you and he should make sure that nothing goes wrong with her because he will never be forgiven. Well, love knows no boundary. It is true that this is uncalled for and not ideal, if you can keep cool, perhaps they would see your point. Good luck!

I do not know how to tell him sorry

Lovelines,

               I definitely love my boyfriend but I quarreled with him over the weekend because of some excuses he gave me. The relationship is not quite long and I have hurt him about three times. Most times I do tell him that he is selfish because he do not love me or faithful to me. My words made him feel sad but I do not know how to tell him sorry!

Mariam

It is unfortunate that sometimes we do not know how to correct our mistake. In brief, if a man realize that he has wrong his sweet heart, to show remorse and say sorry, he will buy her girlfriend a present that is special not necessary expensive but depend on the volume of his pocket. Through that he will say sorry.

So if you know that you wrong your man and you understand him buy him some gift and present it to him yourself. Tell him you are sorry as you are handling it to him touch his heart peck or kiss him then rest your head on his chest as the rest will become story. No matter what he will forgive you hence he can accept your kiss. Good luck!