A married man forthat matter

Lovelines,

              I was introduced to a man in a ceremony. This middle age man and I chatted for the whole day, when I was leaving he took my telephone number and asked if I could visit him at home. Nothing spoil, I visited him as he came to collect me the second day. At his residence he wooed me and said he needs a wife here in The Gambia to take care of his properties for him.

Five days later, he went back to oversee where he is staying while he called me almost everyday to ask about my welfare. Six months later he came back to the country. He took me to his house about three times but never used the same route to the house on each occasion. After my last visit to his house I called him he did not pick my call and if he pick it he will start asking ‘who is this or who are you?’ I do not know his mind or if he has dump me.

Mabintou

It is unfortunate that you too has fall a victim and shared from the full package of semester’s illusion. Every man especially the semesters that do come home for holiday or for one event or the other have realized that every young lady is yawning for a husband. Some men are now using this advantage to get through to women and have their own share of the flesh. It is not their fault because when an honest and trustworthy man come approach a woman and say ‘I want a friendship that might lead to ever lasting relationships.’ Women seem not to like that because they think it is a waste of time.

But if such man say ‘I love you and I want to marry you…as soon as possible,’ woman always happy and succumb when they hear this. Well, all you need to do now is to take heart and forget about him because he succeeded already to get what he want from you which is one of the reasons he always ask ‘who is this or who are you?’ as this indicates that he is done with you. It is also one of the reason he did not want you to know a straight road to his house. So the love is still in the air. Good luck!

An intruder

Lovelines,

                There is a lady that always text me that she is dating my boyfriend. She went far saying that my boyfriend said he does not love me and does not know how to tell me. I drew my boyfriend attention to this but he declined knowing the girl. As she keeps on texting me I got angry and felt jealous that I insulted my boyfriend.

Furthermore I told him that I am off the relationship. Since I did not really meant it I begged him but he took it serious. I asked if he still loves me he insulted me and said no, he does not love me anymore I thought it was a joke but he really means it. Whatever, I still love him!

Isatou

It is always good to screen a decision before taking it. Some decisions can cause a big damage that might not easy to amend. Hence your boyfriend denied knowing her you should have be patient enough to catch them red hand if her text is genuine. You should not have allowed your feeling to overpower your emotion on this issue. Since you have drawn his attention to this and he did not ask for the girl’s number is a true indication that something is wrong somewhere, which is the reason you need to endure and patient rather than insult and your alteration to him.

If you still love him as you said find more time to apologize and continue sharing him with the other girl if it is true they are dating. But if still he negate your plead, sorry, you have to carry-on and look elsewhere. Meaning he is done with you and already make a choice, that is, the text messages from the girl are genuine. Good luck!

Admiring my best friend

Lovelines,

I am a young girl of 15, silently admiring my best male friend. I really love him but I cannot tell him because we stay in the same house and he also not serious when it comes to dating. I continued loving and admiring him silently until some people got to know about it and told him.He did not believe this because we are good friend. I want to forget about him and concentrate on my studies because I am always hurt and jealous each time I see him with another girl. Please help.

Kinneh

It is good that you have realized what early dating especially at your age can cause. There is always time for everything in ones life time. At your age and time you are still young to keep boyfriend hence you cannot fill your mouth with water and the same time blow whistle. That is to say it is impossible for you to concentrate on your book and as well boyfriend because one must overshadow another. The feeling you are having for this guy is nothing than infatuation.

To concentrate on your studies, stop seeing this guy like you always do before. Avoid texting, discussion, clubbing and other things you always do together before. Hence you stay in the same house limit your chat with him to greeting only till you are able to get him off your mind. Stop discussing him with others as this will enable you to take his thought out of your mind. You can call Lovelines for more detail of how to go about this. Good luck!

She is silent over our marriage issue

Lovelines,

              My girlfriend loves me very much that everyday she will call me about 3 or 4 times but whenever I talk to her about marriage she is always silent. Her mother does not allow her to go out and each time I visit her in their house the mother always harass me. What can I do?

Jaguar

Patient, it is patient that can solve this because her silent is probably due to the mother’s reaction towards you. What I can realize here is that the mother is not interested in your association with her daughter. She harassed you because she wants you to quit and leave the daughter. There is possibility that there is a man somewhere arranged for her.

But with patient ask for your girlfriend’s opinion about the relationship especially her mother’s action and her own intention in the relationship. If you are able to give her time there might be something hidden that you need to know. But if you think you cannot wait any longer, tell her that you cannot continue waiting for his endless silent on the issue then decide. Good luck!

Our parents are the obstacle

Lovelines,

              I have a child for my boyfriend but the problem is that his parents do not want me to marry him. The same thing my parents also forbids me from seeing him. Surely, we love each other what should we do to solve this problem?

Elizabeth

Two of you need to sit together and debate on the issue as concerning your parents. You ought to know and find solution to why both of your parents are against your relationship despite the fact that they aware that there is a child in the relationship already. You should talk to a favorable and well understand member of your families to help talk to your parents. Both of you should talk to your parents, it is your life and your feeling and happiness together matter most.

So if there is any differences let them forget about it and give their blessing. And again, try to give them more time to decide on the matter but it would also good if both of you can ask for the reason their not wanting you together or get marry. Consider their reasons if it worthy it and if not follow your heart, it is your life. But remember your final decision should not be regretted, so be careful. Good luck!

He beats me like a donkey

Lovelines,

               Sincerely I love my boyfriend but I do not know what to do with him. He always beat me like a donkey on no genuine reason. Each time he beat me I tried to leave him but he always come back to beg while I used to forgive him. But I cannot continue like this because the beating is too much.

Rohey

Really you know what to do it is because you love him that is hindering you from taking a decision. Either dating or marriage, it is not good for partners to beat or always beat each other.Two thing both of you should try to add to your relationship is to understand and give respect to each other. If there is no understanding and respect between two of you no matter how you love each other, there will always be problem between you two.

Whatever, you should talk to him today about his beating that you cannot condone it further and if he really love you and still want you to continue he should desist from this act and one more beat you will quit. Surely if you know you are tired of this beating quit before he rendered you disable or so. However, some women like their man to beat them and come back to beg, they said it make them happy. Again think deep your heart if you have body to absorb his beat but if not, dear, quit and never look back. Good luck!

I think something is fishy

Lovelines,

               I have been dating my boyfriend for over two years, I love him and he said he love me. The problem is I do not trust him. I always have the feeling that there is something fishy. I want to end the relationship but I do not think that is the right decision. Please help me.

Kumba

Before you take this decision you have to be sure that it is true something is going on that your man is hiding from you. There are different ways of going about this but I think the best way to avoid wrong decision is to put your ears down, open your eyes, vigilant and be observant. Doing this you will be able to know and find out what is fishy and what you suppose to know. So if you are able to find anything you do not like or wish then you can fall back on your decision and kiss him goodbye. Call for more information. Good luck!

She sometimes denies me bed obligatory

Lovelines,

               I am marrying for the past four years still my wife cannot understand me, sometimes she denied me having sex with her. This always happen especially when she does not need my attention on bed. When I begged to sleep with her she will say ‘wait till tomorrow.’ Since I do not want to engage in any extra marital affairs, I sent people from my family to talk to her family over this her behavior still she did not change. The only thing she replied is that I am not secretive. I do not know what to do because I do not want divorce.

Bayo

I admire your courage over what you are experience in your marriage for the past four years. I would encourage you to deal with this issue patiently. To start with, do everything that you are require to do as husband but keep off from one. That is trying as much as possible to control your libido if possible for four to six weeks or more without touching or request for sex from her. Pretend that you are okay without it. When she touch you or make a move resist it till she talks about it.

Then sit her down to let her know how you love and how you both start the relationship before getting married. Let her know if not because of love you are having for her there is nothing stop you from marrying another wife because of her attitude to you. It is necessary that you let her know that with her attitude she is pushing you out to other woman and if any of the desperate women out there have you she will loose you. More over, re tables the love and repackages it and if she cannot cope or accept to the outcome of your discussion, well she left you no option than to follow your heart and take your final decision. You can call for more information. Good luck!

My ward’s daughter

Lovelines,

There is a girl that I dearly love she is my ward’s daughter. I am afraid to tell this girl, her brother and mum that I love her all because I adore and cherish my ward (her mother) a lot.

Sheik

Sometimes it might be difficult to say something like this especially when you are in the same compound. So far she is not the one that brought you up, nothing bad in approaching the girl. It is two ways, is either you say it and get positive or negative answers and loose your dignity.

Since you want to keep the love and respect between you and your ward including the family use your brain. Do some underground work that will at least give you clue of either they will be happy with you or not. Call for more information of out to go about this if necessary. Good luck!