I need a partner for marriage

Lovelines,

I am a young guy, hardworking, caring, and lovely and a good citizen. I would be very happy if I can meet my partner through Lovelines. I do not just want a partner but serious one that will be my half part.

CK and PAS

Are you one of the ladies out there that need a partner or really want to settle down with a lovely and God fearing man? Well it is time you pick up your phone and as usual call Lovelines for detail if you are interested. Good luck!

A sudden change of mind

Lovelines,

I am dating a guy who is 2 years older than I am. I love and cherish him so much within this our five months old relationship. Things have been going on smoothly and fine between us until last Monday when he suddenly sent me a text that he wanted us to separate be a mere friend as he does not want intimacy with me again. He said his decision was made due to a preacher that preached to him that dating is not good. Therefore I should look for someone else to date. But I loved him and I do not want to loose him. What can I do about this?

Rahamatta

There is nothing you can do about this than to accept his condition, take heart and wait for someone else to love you. Islam and Christianity even traditional religion prohibit us from indulging in boyfriend and girlfriend act. But everyone is engaging in dating because of civilisation and modernization. So if there is anyone in the society of ours today that really want to follow the steps of Prophet Mohammed (SAW) and Jesus Christ we have to applaud such person if he or she is doing it in good faith. Therefore my young lady, accept to be his mere friend if really you love him. In future when he is ready to get marry he might come back to you. And if it is not too late then you might accept him back and become his wife but if it is too late then no ones fault but destiny takes the lead. Good luck!

She recorded our bed action

Lovelines,

My story is very brief because I am confused and I do not know what my girlfriend and her friend are up to. To start with I love my girlfriend and she claim to love me, too. We have shared good time together without any reservation. Lately her friend visited me, I do not know maybe I should say she seduced me but I know I cannot resist her as I fell for her. The problem now is that when I was having fun with her it was unaware to me that she was using a mobile camera to record the action. When she left she took it to my girlfriend. When I met with my girlfriend she explained everything and shown the clip to me. I was amazed, when I called the lady she shunned me off. I tried to explain thing to my babe she never listened. Secondly I am still seeing two of them moving together as if nothing has happened.

Yussupha

The wise ones say ‘show me your friend, I will tell you who you are.’ Although I am not trying to judge you but I am trying to refer to verses in the Holy Quran that says when choosing a friend you should choose among the good ones. In the same Holy Quran chapter of Women, I am not quoting but reference, it said let the prostitute marry the prostitute, the good and discipline ones to marry from the good and discipline the narration continues like that. In nutshell, I would let you know that you only date but unable to know the type of woman you date. 

What has happened is a team work between your girlfriend and her friend. It was a well planned coup to get rid of you which they have successfully done. It was just that you were overpowered by female emotion that you cannot think again because of the enjoyment in women’s flesh. You were totally carried away and blinded with emotional sin. So the lady has no shame! Well, you have two things to do, first, befriend with them if you are a coward. Secondly, be frowned with them and stand as a man to challenge them of this shameless attitude in exposing them if they try to stand on your way. 

They (both of them) either wanted to get rid of you, hijacking you from her friend or whatever might be their motive on this; it is just that they are shameless and nothing but prostitutes. In future you should remember that chasing two birds with a stone is nothing but vain. So also, chasing two close girlfriends or trying to have your own share of their flesh when you are not done with one can cause you more than you can bear. Good luck!

He is 20 years older than me

Lovelines,

There is a man in my life that is responsible for my happiness but he is 20 years older than me. I love this man and we have being together for three years now. Last week he officially proposed to me and wants us to get married in a very short time. Two of my friends are trying to confuse me as they were saying the man is too old for me. What do you think about this?

Sibo

There is nothing wrong marrying someone that is older in age. However, the person should not be too old because here in Africa most people do not want a wider gap especially when a woman is dating or getting marry to a man of the same age with her father. Notwithstanding in love age is nothing. We have been seeing a man having relationship or getting marry to a woman he is far older than; so also woman; both are common in our society. 

But one thing or question that you need to ask yourself is if you are really going to marry the person or just dating. That is if the relationship or the affair is not for marriage just quit to avoid future lamentation, had I know and as well to protect your own identity and dignity. Note that relationship out of social bond or marriage is merely for greed and of short term satisfaction. Still if it is for real; it is your life so far you are happy with the man, goes on sweetie, sky is the limit. Good luck!