Where is the love of my heart?

Lovelines,

              I am in my early 30s, saying hello to the confidence young and lovely God fearing man out there that really want to be in everlasting relationship. Egoism man and dictator is not my friend as love is base on mutual understanding and respect. Anyway my heart is for serious and a caring man.

Catherine

Are you a lovely, caring, gentle, respectful, understanding and a good Christian brother that really want to settle down? Well, pick your phone and call Lovelines. ‘Remember no room for rushing, and laziness. I promise it is going to be seedling and romantic.For more information dial Lovelines. Good luck!

Unwanted sexual demand

Lovelines,

               I do not know if I can continue to conceal this or been tagged as a betrayal. Anyhow what is going on in my friend’s life is a big concern to me. My friend’s uncle who is a semester is becoming a bone on neck that cannot be eaten or thrown away. He torments and harasses my friend sexually always.

This time around my friend is always sick and disturb I do not know if she is pregnant; I would like her to go for a medical check up but she is not willing to do that, she said she wants to avoid trouble, it is like a threat. My friend is a deep sleeper and she started noticing cunnilingus in her sleep. She complain to me and I let her know that what she is experience is real she should stop sleeping deeply.

One day she was about doze off when she saw her uncle trying to pull her undies and browse her underneath. As my friend sprung up, the man pretended as if he wanted to cover her with wrapper. My friend let him go. This time I cannot say exactly if he was under the influence of alcohol, as he came into my friend’s bedroom and started behaving abnormally. This continued as he later one day, according to her, climbed her and balled (with) her. As my friend continues to nag and rant on him, he told her that no one will believe her statement if she say it out.

Kumbah

This is not a matter of betray rather a serious matter that your friend needs to inform her parents as soon as possible no matter what will be their reaction. This is like a rape and gradually it will turn into a trauma in her life as far as she continues to experience and condone it. Secondly, like you said she has to go for medical inspection to enable her knows her condition and state of health.

If she refuses letting the parent especially the mother to know what has happened it might caused her emotional pain in future that would be irredeemable. Her concealment of this unwanted sexual demand might be because of fear that the uncle instill on her. But you can still help her out if you are a very close friend of hers. Call her mother into your confidence and explain to her as your friend revealed to you. But remember to let her mother keep the source of the information as a secret before the uncle. Good luck!

I do not want her to abort

Lovelines,

                I am having a problem with my girlfriend because she is pregnant. When she told me that she is pregnant despite that we are yet to formalize our relationship before our parents, I was very happy. But the unfortunate thing is that she wants to abort the pregnancy just because we are not yet married. And she does not want her parent to know about this, too. I do not want her to abort this pregnancy, what can I do?

Sarjo

This is a solvable problem that needs understanding, compromise and acceptance between two of you. Ask yourself if both of you love each other and as well ready to get marry now. If you get ‘yes’ answer to these two questions, formalize the relationship. Since a pregnant woman cannot be joined with a man to make them couple, let your parent meet her parent for a short introduction and make your intention known to member of the two families.

In future when she delivers then does a proper wedding as lays down by Christianity and Islamic laws of marriage. Abortion is prohibited in both religions and greatly against our custom and tradition. It is always last result with cogent reason. Therefore, in a lovely and friendly manner have a special heart to heart talk with your girlfriend about this.

Although she is trying to avoid having a child out of wedlock, so far it has happened there is nothing anyone can do about this anymore. Try to convince her because women’s heart her always strong when they made a decision over a pregnancy, either to keep or abort it. Good luck!

He refuses to call and text me

Lovelines,

                It is just 2 months now that I started dating my boyfriend. At the beginning of the relationship he always called and sent me text messages but now especially in the past two days or more he did not call or text. And he refused to reply my text messages each time I send him one. What can I do because I am confused?

Jojo

It is too early for you to be confused about his silence over not call or send you text message. Some guys are not used to calling or sending text message. But on his case maybe it was do to his busy schedule. Do not give up yet until you are able to ascertain what is going on in his mind.

You only talk about text and call what about visiting each other, or are you telephone lovers? There is need for you to talk to him face to face and let him know that you cherish communication a lot in your relationship. More over, check yourself and rate how committed you are in this relationship and at the same time think of what you know about this man. Good luck!

Heflings between us

Lovelines,

I do not know what to say or do as my boyfriend is in love with my best friend.

Mansatta

Prior anything you ought to make sure that your allegation is true and nothing but the truth. Because is an issue that can break relationship and friendship. Therefore, if ascertain that he is flinging between you and your friend then you are left with choice. One you can confront both of them over this to know what they have to say before your decision. Two, you can keep quite and make your choice.

The choice is if you think you can continue to share him and be a rival with your best friend, continue. But if you are not ready to be a rival to anyone or close friend for that matter, make a choice by be on your own and forget about them. This will make him choose between two of you. Should incase he choose your friend, no heart feeling, bid him goodbye. Good luck!

I love him but he smokes

Lovelines,

               I really need help; I am a Christian lady dating a Muslim guy. This guy is a calm and gentleman. The only problem I am having with him is that I hate smoking and he is a smoker. I did not know this when we started dating until later. He told me that he will not smoke in my presence still I do not like smoking or smoker. He loves and respects me so much but this smoking of a thing is what I am trying to stop him but I could not because he is so addicted to it. So help me.

Bikky

Smoking and drinking especially smoking, is a habit that is very difficult to take away from anyone that smoke. Drunkard can stop drinking easily compare to smoker. If you make him stop now with condition in future he will go back to it especially when he has got what he needs or when the condition become inadequate. If it is true that you love each other you ought to learn how to cope with his smoking habit or you quit.

This is because a smoker will never quit smoke because of a woman but he can hide like he said without smoke in your presence. Sooner or later the promise shall be broken. In conclusion learn how to cope with this his habit or wait for a man that will meet your criteria. Call for more information. Good luck!