Family romance

Lovelines,

                I have a problem, I am dating a guy, he is my cousin. I love him so much,we started dating since six years back but none of our family members know anything about this. However, we always have deep and hot romance and this happen always because we are living together. Can we tell our parents of this relationship or keep quite and continue?

Sutay

First of all ask yourself what you people are expecting from this corner, corner love and romance. Do you love each other to marriage level or you are just in it satisfying yourselves? The earlier you let your parents know your intention about this the better because six years is not six months or weeks. But if just enjoyment level, it is better you cut it off right away.

Beside it is not a signs of discipline from both of you as cousins living under the same roof and engages in secret love for six years. Again think and take a decision over this, if you wish to marry each other, do it now because if it is longer than this hardly you will both make it to the altar. So it is better you tell your parents if your decision is positive. Good luck!

I am not dating anyone

Lovelines,

               What am I going to do to enable my friend know that I truly love him so that he can tell me that he love me, too? This guy I love and care about him to an extent everyone saying we are dating. I am not dating him or anyone else, but I definitely love him. Well, I cannot continue hiding so I told him. He responded and said “what!” and changed the topic. Still I love him and we have being friend for a long time now. One thing is that I have the feeling that he loves me.

Naba

His reply, “what,” to you when you wooed him has a meaning. If a man reply negative to a woman who is brave enough to make the first move, there are two things involve. First, the closeness probably you are a family; in-law; mentor and so on. Second thing is the condition of the woman. So my dear young woman, search your mind, is he a family member, or is he dating one of your relative, friend or something is hiding somewhere that need to be considered. Since he is not interested keep his thinking away from your mind. If he needs you he will surely come and beg for you. Good luck!

‘Am happy to read Lovelines

Lovelines,

           I was very fortunate to read and be part of the readers of this educative and informative story on Lovelines’s page last week. I would like to continue reading it every other week but I do not have access to newspaper every time. Please keep it up.

Rahina

You are welcome to the Lovelines family as I am wishing you happy reading. Lovelines is accessible everywhere in the Gambia and beyond. All you need to do is to subscribe to Daily Observer newspaper and have a copy on your table on daily basis. Better still, visit Daily Observer online on www.observer.gm to read every edition of Lovelines the only Love Tonic in The Gambia. Good luck!

She cannot feel me

Lovelines,

              A lady I am attracted to cannot feel me. I did express my feeling for her but still no positive response from her.

Bojang

Well, you can still try harder but if it is still the same answer, then leave her and browse for another girl that will consider your interest. You do not need to concentrate or continue disturbing a woman if she is not interested in you. The more you continue, the more you make her feel big and pompous. Good luck!

Give me your opinion

Lovelines,

            I would like to know if it is bad or not to beg your boyfriend especially for money or property, materials. I need your opinion on this.

Chepe-girl

There is nothing bad for either a man or woman to request or beg for assistance from their partner but this should not be do or die. More so it is better not to be too demanding from your partner especially when he or she is not financially strong. Request from him or her to do something for you but do not compel him or her to do. From the heart, he can do whatever he likes for you. The more you are able to appreciate whatever your partner do or give to you, the more you will be able to go far and get more. Good luck!

She is in grade 7

Lovelines,

               I am 24, social worker. I met a young girl who is in grade 7 in the school. She always asked about my whereabouts from my friends. I really love her and would like to make her my future wife but I do not know how to go about this.

Fabakary

Sincerely what you are having for this girl is infatuation. This girl is still not mature in mind that you can discuss marriage issue with. Although she might look very mature physically but do not raise the topic before her so that she will be able to concentrate in her education for now. If you think that you really love her continue nursing her, be her good friend since a friend in need is a friend indeed, in futurewhen she is mature and you too is ready to take a wife you can chose her if you are still interested in her. Good luck!

She wants to end our marriage

Lovelines,

                It is just barely two months that we got married but now we are having problem. I gave my wife an Africel sim card to use but she always preferred using Gamcel sim card. When I asked her for the reason she said because her mother is using Gamcel line. I did not accept this as I said it is better she say she is using it because it is easier for her concubine to chat with her through that.

She got angry over this and wanted to pack out. I stopped her from doing that but she went inside to draw a knife before me. I opened the door and she went outside stood by the window and said “it is over, I don’t love you, leave me alone.” And with annoyance I replied too “I don’t love you, is over.” Please I need your advice.

Dembalan

Well, since she has packed out of your house to her parent, I would advise you to try as much as possible to visit her and talk the matter over with her parents possibly with your parent too. Marriage is an institution that we learn everyday because there is no one perfect. In marriage to be a good husband or wife is not matter of number of degree that you have but tolerance, understanding, acceptance, respect among other things will make stay forever in any relation. However, her parent supposed to have called you by now to require for what went wrong between two of you. I do not want to dilate more on this because she is not in your place. But if you do not get this down, give me a call to explain better to you. Good luck!

He does not want to see me

Lovelines,

               I have a complicated issue my fiancé does not want to see me.The reason is just because he does not trust himself being with me. Secondly, these days, he reply, text or call me whenever he feels like doing so or want me. Does it mean he is loosing interest on me?

Mounira

It will be better if you can call him and ask him why he is feeling inferior before you. Does it mean you are not compatible that made him not to trust himself been with you? There must be reason for his action probably because of age different, maturity, habit, education or some other things. Seek for his audience as this will give you the real clue. You can call Lovelines for more information. Good luck!

He adds me to his facebook friend

Lovelines,

                I met this guy at work and he knows my coworker.He added me to his facebook friends and started chat with me both online and on phone. I think he really likes me as he asked for a date from me. I honored his outing and it seems to be a good guy, I like him but I do not really trust him.

Rohey

You cannot judge a book by its cover, neither can you stay afar and describe the taste of soup. Meaning you have to study him, be good friend and see if his behaviors meet your demand. At the same time look if he is the type of a man you want and if he posses the quality you need from a man. Then you will be able to talk about love and trust. Good luck!

What is infertility?

Lovelines,

             I have watched series of home videos especially ones that have something to do with couples that cannot produce a child or bear children. I would like Lovelines to dwell more on infertility, because I wish to have more knowledge about this.

Danlanda

You are still bound to visit an othordx doctor to throw more light on this your question. Meanwhile, infertility is the inability to produce children. Often the woman is blamed for this. But Infertility occurs in both men and women. On average, infertility affects 1 of every 10 couples. A couple is considered infertile after having 12 months of unprotected sex without pregnancy. A couple can be infertile whether or not the woman has been pregnant in the past. Among couples with no fertility problems, 85% of women will become pregnant over one year. On average, pregnancy occurs after 3 to 6 months of unprotected sex. There is great variation around this average, however.

Pregnancy wastage is another form of infertility: A woman can become pregnant, but miscarriage or stillbirth prevents a live birth. Moreover, there are different factors or conditions that can reduce fertility, such as: infectious diseases (sexually transmitted infections – STIs; including HIV; other reproductive tract infections; mumps that develop after puberty in men); Anatomical; endocrine; genetic or immune system problems; aging; medical procedures that bring infection into a woman’s upper reproductive tract;

STIs are a major cause of infertility. Left untreated gonorrhea and Chlamydia can infect fallopian tubes; the uterus; and ovaries. This is known as pelvic inflammatory disease (PID). Clinical PID is painful, but sometimes PID has no symptoms and goes unnoticed (silent PID). Gonorrhea and Chlamydia can scar women’s fallopian tubes, blocking eggs from traveling down the tubes to meet sperm. Men can have scarring and blockage in the sperm duct (epididymis) and urethra from untreated gonorrhea and Chlamydia.

So also, other reasons for male infertility include a natural inability either to produce any sperm at all or enough sperm to cause pregnancy. Less commonly, sperm are malformed and die before reaching an egg. Among women, natural inability to become pregnant often is due to blocked fallopian tubes or inability to ovulate. Fertility is also related to age. As a woman gets older, her ability to become pregnant naturally deceases over time. Emerging evidence suggests that, similarly, men, as they age, produce sperm that is less able to fertilize an egg.

Postpartum and postabortion infections also can cause PID, which may lead to infertility. This happens when the surgical instruments used for medical procedures are not properly disinfected or sterilized. A woman can also develop PID if an infection present in the lower reproductive tract is carried into the upper reproductive tract during a medical procedure.