We have a 5- month-old baby

Lovelines,

              I am a young lady in my 20s. I have a child, five months old, with my boyfriend. We started dating 18 months ago. The issue here is that he stopped calling me regularly like before. He always says that he loves me and wants to marry me. Whenever he sees male friend’s text on my phone he will break my SIM card. I love him so much but his not calling and our irregular meeting is gradually killing the love I have for him. More over he is still dating his ex who knows me very well.

Sohna

Such is life, some relationships among the youth nowadays is totally taking a new trend compare to in the past. People are now dating just because they see others dating. Some cannot say exactly what they want, make a decision less to talk of making a choice. Some has a child but cannot even remember of having one or remember the existence of his or her partner. One thing you, others and all should know and note is that over 80 per cent of this generation lovers found it very difficult to continue their love as they initially start it.

This is because less people are into true love instead money and facial loves become order of the day. If you two are serious in this relationship, by now your boyfriend’s parents and yours supposed to have and do short introduction to ensure that you both are engage hence you have a child as the profit of your dating. I will advise you, hence you love him and he said he wants to marry, talk to his mother about everything going on between two of you.

Make your intention known to his mother and so that she will talk to him on your behalf. His mother action will bring out his answer and thought about the relationship. This will help you find solution to either to be patient and continue or quit. The issue of him still dating his ex is secondary. Good luck!

Secret love

 Lovelines,

                I am in a serious but secret relationship with my boyfriend’s friend. It is now two years that I have been actively dating my boyfriend and his friend. Nobody knows about this secret except him and me. I love him dearly and more than my actual boyfriend that I cannot let him go. At the same time I do not want my boyfriend to know about this our secret love.

Yama

You have choice. Is either you chose your boyfriend and let his friend go or you let go your boyfriend and continue your romantic love with his friend openly instead of in secret. Whatever the case might be, your boyfriend’s friend is a betrayal. And you too is nothing but a big fool. Do you know why you are a fool? No, I will let you know that no matter whatever you try to love or proof your love to this secret lover he will never trust you with any man in his life.

This is because both of you are able to do it secretly for two years meaning if he marry you, you will do the same thing with another man behind him. Secondly, he will never believe that you got no other boyfriend apart your boyfriend and him. Thirdly, your pride and prestige before him when it come decency is nothing than for him to tag you useless, moon that bloom for men, prostitute among other dirty names. If you think I am joking try and offend him tonight or bluff him for a week and see the result. I will advice should in case you still love your actual boyfriend, you should let go his friend with immediate effect.

But if you prefer his friend over him as you claimed, then continue but when the result come you will become the laughing stock. More over, how do you know that you are not been used by the two friend, food for thought. I know the trust ratio in amateur’s calculation will stand at 1-2-1. One man put his trust on one man and a woman and one among the two people are not to be trusted- which is you. And that is the feeling of your secret lover. Good luck!

I am just pretending

Lovelines,

               I am a young and sharp guy of 26, dating a lady that is 2 years younger than I am. We have been dating for four years. Since I know about her past I started to hide my feeling about her. I tried by all means to ask about my suspicion and what I heard about her, but she avoided my questions with care. In brief she has dated a long-term friend of mine residing abroad before we met. I observed that the past is still freshening in her memory. Also, I suspected that she is still interested in that my friend as well.

Secondly, I felt that she is hidden something from me about her love life. This is always happen whenever she is receiving a phone call. And after each call she receive she will delete the number or any SMS immediately. Because of these her inbox and call log cannot reveal tangible thing. For the past one year I did not have strong feelings for her though I do not have any other girlfriend. Now I want her out of my life in order to stop pretending that everything is good between us. But it is difficult for me to do because everyone that knows us together always asks about her from me.

Williams

Pretence cannot solve this. If both of you do not come together to discuss the matter, sooner or later it will turn to an emotional problem if not emotional crack. I suggest that hence you are sure of yourself on this; I would like you to call her and explain everything in detail. Tell her that you want to know her stands in the relationship, let her choose between you and her ex. Make it a give and take discussion, you should not dominate everything, listen to her and reason with her.

She might have a good reason. Better still your assumption might wrong. A known long-term spirit is better than an unheard Angel. Tell her how much you love and care for her and how you will like both of you to spend the rest of your lives together. Better still, if you cannot go on with her anymore you do not need anybody’s permission or no need of listen what people will say because it is your call.

But it is better to let her know your mind than giving false hope or pretending as you said. So tell her everything you know about her with evidences before it is too late for two of you. Tell her the truth. If you do not because of her generosity towards you, well it is a big mistake that you might regret in future. Good luck!