My boyfriend's brother is interested in me

Lovelines
I am 22 dating a man of 28. This man is my brother's friend and is married with children. He wants to date me but he does not know that I am in love with his brother. I don't want my family to know about this because they will feel otherwise. I really love this man and I don't want to lose him.
Misrah

Dating your brother's friend is not a bad thing. Although some people may see him as irresponsible while taging you as a loose girl. The is if your brother's friend is rich nobody will be against your relationship; the whole family will surely  welcome the relationship. But importantly, if he loves you he should come out and make his intention known rather than both of you skulking from the family.

Also nobody expected this from  you. However, at your age why can't you look for a real person that will marry you instead of dating a married man? Bear it in mind that a married man will always remain as a married man. That's as he's dating you, there are other ladies out there that he still admires. As he is playing seek and hide love with you, so he is doing elsewhere. Think of it and stop deceiving yourself. If he dearly loves you let him marry you rather than keeping you as his mistress. I will advise you not to be an intruder, look for your own lover because you haven't find one yet. Good luck!


Lovelines
I don't know if my girlfriend still loves me because we separated for 2 months before we reconciled. Since our reconciliation, she hasn't called or replied my messages and she as well does not interact with me like before. I am confused help me.
Bashir

Your problem depends on the situation that led to your falling apart. Remember that Chinua Achebe said: "When things fall apart the centre cannot hold any more." Now that you are able to reconcile try as much as possible to make the relationship work. Do call her to a true love dialogue.

It is important you let her know that you have really observed how cold the relationship has become since you reconciled. Promise her and reassure her of your love. Finally let her know that you want the love to be as before when you were like body and soul. However, if this doesn't work as expected you can become good friends and look for new love. Good luck!


Lovelines
I am a young and beautiful lady, kindly tell me how to know if my boyfriend loves me or not.
Jarry

Lovelines
There is a gal I love and I don't know how I can proof it to her. I want you to help me.
Camara

Jarry and Camara, read about this on past issues of Lovelines. If you cannot lay your hands on any try as much as possible to visit Daily Observer website: www.observer.gm Better still you can call Lovelines for more information. Good luck!


Lovelines,
I have been in a relationship with a girl for 9 months but we have never trusted each other. Now she can't let me go and I am madly in love with her what should I do?
Gafarou

You can continue with her since she wants you while you too are madly in love with her. The only thing is that both of you are selfish. This is  the main reason why you can't make anyone trust each other. There is no doubt, both of you have hidden agenda in which I presume  both of you are seeing someone else.

If true love exists between you then learn how to trust each other. Try as much as possible to build the trust, it might be difficult but with love and determination you can start to trust one another. Good luck!

Another love after child out of wedlock

Lovelines
I am 24 years old, and I have been in a relationship with a lady whom I love and cherish for over five years. Just 3 months ago we had a bouncing baby boy out of wedlock. I love my son and his mother they mean the world to me. Recently, I met another lady whom I adored years back but she didn't accept my love until now. This lady loves me and now that I have got her I discovered that she and my son's mother are ready to be with me forever. What should I do? .
Saikou

I want you to know that 'being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.' That's to say if you really love the mother of your son and your son as you claimed you should not think of someone you ever loved but turned you down until recently before accepting you to her life. Love experts believe that "Love is an ideal thing, but marriage is the real thing."

Five years relationship with a blessed son at your age, think of how you will get married to the lady and start to build your family r. Stop deceiving yourself, the lady only accepted you into her life recently because you are doing fine. Mind you, she might have considered you for the fact that she could not find herself a suitable suitor. Otherwise she will not look at you after knowing that you are having a son and even still with his mother. You are a man, you got to think. Don't think of only today to destroy your tomorrow. But if you sure that you love both of them I will advise you to get married to both of them if possible but if not use your brain. 'Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day.' So consider this statement well and think about the mother of your son. Good luck!


Lovelines
 I am dating a guy who said he loves me. This guy went behind to chase couples of my classmates. He has the gut to tells me that he dates them but he does not love them. Is this  love? I am confused.
Raina

This is not  love. He is only interested in your body chemistry. I am sure that since he has the gut to tell you, "I date them but I do not love them," so he will tell them that he dates you but doesn't love you. Besides, you have to be careful of a man who has a chain of girlfriends and boasts of it. Remember, the world is not free of STDs yet. Take your time your love will come when it is time. Good luck!


Lovelines
I am in love with my cousin who stays out of the country. The relationship started when I went for a short holiday about four months ago. When I came back to the country I noticed that there are changes in our communication. His action reflects to me that he is in love with another girl.

This is due to the fact that he has stopped calling and sending email to me like before. Over there, there is a girl staying in the same area with him when I was there. The girl loves him but he has always denied it each time I ask ed him. I am on my final examination but couldn't concentrate because of this. After my examination I hope to go back to spend some months.
Sarata  

I am very sorry for you. You ought to know that he will definitely have a girlfriend over there beside you. This is because before you went there he has been there with some admirers in which your suspected lady is one of them. So the same thing continued when you left there. He will only continue from where he stopped with them because you spent a very short time during your visit.

Within that short period I don't think you are able to win his heart enough to have him desist from thinking or seeing other girls. I am sorry for you in the sense that you make a boyfriend issue your priority instead of your final examination. Your final examination is part of your life that needs to be taken with greater care. I would like you to know without doubt that he has other girlfriends there because that place is not like  Gambia where you can be tied down with 'duck love' or 'love in the name of family, friendship' and so on unless one is able to control him or herself. Give me a call for more clarification. Good luck!

I don't know the source of  her income

Lovelines
I am dating a girl that I love so much. She does many things for my parents and I both in kind and financially. Also she does some domestic works for my mother. When I asked her the source of her income, she said her relatives abroad are behind her financially. To my dismay, I discovered that she has a sugar daddy from whom she collects money. Does this girl love me? What does she take me for?
Alie

She loves you. If she does not she will not be 'robbing Peter to pay Paul.' What you need to do is to try as much as possible to find a job for yourself that can make you stand and talk like a man. Talk to her about this, as you do not like it. Talk to her in a genuine and respectful manner not as a whore or wayward girl. The reason is that the man you believe to be her sugar daddy might not. Do not attack if you do not get concrete evidence so that it will not become 'had I known thing.' Call for more information. Good luck!


Ade
All my life I have read about it, dreamt of it, waited for it, cried for it, needed it. Now with you I have found it, my love.
Aisha

Sal
Knowing a person like you made me happy in a million ways and if ever I have to let you go; I would find a million reasons to make you stay. Oh! I love you my baby boy you are my healer. Proposing to you is my desire, having you is my jackpot, loving you is my attitude, pleasing you is my duty, missing you is my habit, kissing you is my wish, together forever my filfi. Know that I may run out of message to text you. I may run out of jokes too. I may also run out of battery or even a peso but my heart will not run out of space for you!
B-B

Bunjai
If you love me like you told me, please be careful with my heart you can take it just don't break it or else my world will fall apart.
Ida

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