How lonely are you at home?
Friday, June 29, 2012
are you at home especially after your daily office routine? It is a general
question for every matured soul to answer. You can easily become a victim of
It is not something foreign or strange, still to some that can not differentiate between their happy and sad moment when it come to relationship, it is. You may have all that it take to be rich or all riches, pleasures with great capacity and bliss but within you, there is always the lurking shadow of been alone, which is loneliness.
can easily express what is meant by loneliness with irrespective of their
background, rich, poor, religious or pagan. So when you are in the state of
loneliness, what does your mind do, can you tell?
Your mind will start to think, imagine and develop high tension. At that time many things will touch your mind like to turn on the radio or put in your favorite music, which you will not followed the lyric or the beating, pick up a book to read or try to work but all these will be done without concentration. True or false, Then try to observe your own loneliness. It is necessary to do this because when the mind is aware of is own loneliness, it will run away and try to escape if it does not want to be harmed.
So how do
you escape from it? Take this for escape; whether into religious contemplation
or going to a film house, all are exactly the same it is still an escape. But
some men will decide to escape through alcohol or sometime smoking. A man that
escapes through drinking or smoking to overcome their loneliness is no more
better than a man that remains loneliness because soon or later he will be free
from the hang over of the alcohol.
So if there is no escape and struggle into the opposite, then the mind tends to condemn it according to the frame of its knowledge, but if there is no condemnation, then the whole attitude of the mind towards the thing it has called lovely has undergone a complete change. Yes or no?
Since loneliness is a state of isolation then the mind will close and do away from every relationship and anything to do with love and consensual sex while jealousy and imagination will creep in. At that stage the mind has known loneliness.
loneliness can undergo transformation. Yes it can, when the mind refuse to
create escape then that loneliness will undergo transformation and then become
aloneness. It does not matter the world you use for the sake of grammarian. So
there is no fear. The mind that feels lonely because it has isolated itself
from various activities is afraid of loneliness.
But if there awareness in which there is no choice, which means no condemnation lines which there is no then the mind is no longer lonely but it is in a state of loneliness which there is no corruption, no process of self-enclosure. One must be alone, there must be that aloneness, in that sense loneliness is a state of frustration, aloneness is not, and alones is not the opposite of loneliness.
So most of us are lonely, all our activities are the activities of frustration. The happy man is not a lonely man. Happiness is alone. And the action of aloneness is entirely different from the activities of loneliness.
trying to understand the problem of marriage, in which is simply sexual
relationship, love, companionship, and communion. If there is no love, marriage
becomes a disgrace, does it not? Then it becomes more gratification. To love is
one of the most difficult things, yes or no? Love can come into being – it can
be only when the self is absent.
Without love, relationship is a pain. However, gratifying, or superficial leads to boredom, routine habit with all it implications. Then, sexual problems become all important. So, in considering marriage, whether it is necessary or not, one must first comprehend love.
Author: Yunus Saliu