It is a festive time everyone is full of excitement because in less than ten days we shall all shout Happy New Year! As we are ushering into this coming New Year 2012, I took it as a responsibility to talk to my fellow men on one of the mistakes some of us always make when it comes to getting a woman. I know some have never one day sit down and think of why they have never get the kind of woman, lover or wife they really love to have.

Whatever, as a young man have you ever think why a woman who seems to love you will one way or other start withdrawing or decide staying away from dating or visiting you regularly. Or dump you after some outing in spite of claiming to love and wish to spend the rest of her life with you? On many occasions I have received complains from young men and ladies even teenagers asking if their lovers really love them. Many men would like a woman to prove her love for them by letting them go to bed and do what fathers and mothers are doing.

So also guys want to know sometimes if a woman is attracted to them and how they can approach her for outing. If a girl loves you, you will surely know because she will not be able to reject your proposal or against you, when you have really nod her in the right place. Well she might not say anything than smiling because she is romantic and matured enough to handle a relationship.

On the other hand if your proposals for a more intimate relationship is rejected or you only get halfhearted responses from your girl only to be scorned for a more suave looking innocent guy that is sitting comfortable on a couch in the sitting rooms; then you are making a lot of mistakes which will continue in full circle if you failed to recognize them or do something about it.

Guys should take out time to study a woman to know her likes and dislikes before you jump straight into asking her for a more serious relationship. It is only the fun looking babes that will respond to such propositions and of course you know what happens when they get tired: you get dumped again! So to avoid these pitfalls, among most common ten mistakes men always make in new and even old relations, I have chosen one because it is going to be the bone of contention at the end of the festive among the young lovers.

The mistake is that if you try to rush, push or turn a girl or your partner into having sex with you on Xmas day or every time she comes around, then you are provoking her instincts to clamp up on you. Don’t focus on sex everyday or each time you are with her. Instead allow her to get used to you and build up the attraction. If you really like a girl and interested in forming a long-lasting relationship with her, hold off on the pressure. She will let you know when she is ready - and it will probably be sooner than you are thinking.

Men should always remember that having sex with a lady did not signify that the lady loves you or you love her. Some guys want to satisfy their sexual desire; they can go for anything underskirt without restriction because they are fully pressed and erotic. So also women especially when it comes to achieving their aims. Woman will love you when she is used to you. That is why love experts say ‘woman would or do not love until she is used to you.’