Love and trust
Friday, June 22, 2012
be wondering why this week edition is focusing on love and trust, well this is
due to the fact that majority of the dates today are facing problem of trust
Therefore we have to really know the meaning of the two words and how we apply them in our relationship to avoid always complain or say “I cant trust him,” “do not trust a woman,” “I love her but I do not trust her,” “all men are the same, do not trust them.” The same thing some will say “I love you but I cannot trust you.”
defined by some experts is said to be emotional and logical acts. It is ability
to predict what other people can or will do in or if situation occur.
Therefore, talking about emotional, it is where you expose your openness to
people with believes that they will not take advantage of your vulnerability.
In other hands, logical, is after assessed the chance which we can call the
probabilities or the likelihood of merits and demerits, or the gain and loss
and arrived on predictable behavior of the character in question.
Looking at the above properly, we will see that to trust someone there are things that associates with it which most time we do not put into consideration and those things are friendship; love; comfort and relaxation; companionship; faith and believe among other qualities.
Therefore each time we talk about trust put in your thought the words predictability, reciprocation hence trust is what you exchange. This means that each time you trust someone you are expecting something back and what thing-it is for the person to leave up to your expectation. Because of this experts added to their definition that, trust means making an exchange with someone when you do not have full knowledge about them, their intent and the things they are offering to you.
Before we talk about the two combination words, some says ‘you can emotionally love someone, but not trust the person. You can trust the person, but not emotionally love the person.’ Whatever when you trust a person, you believe that the person have your best interest at heart. Such person would not do something or anything to hurt you for the fun of it or selfish gain.
each and every partner clamoring about is love. You can meet someone less than
thirty minutes and start to shout ‘I love him or her’ this is especially done
by the men. With time the word trust will crept in either in negative or
positive form. Relationship should be love and trust without fear or
questioning, need each other without demanding or restriction and accept and desire
each other without change and inhibitions. This is because we wish for a love
journey that start at forever and end never.
relationship you will hear some saying ‘I cannot love again’ this because some
people hae once in their life been hurt. This will make them hesitate to trust
and as well love. So if you deeply love someone definitely you will trust and
place your trust in the hand of such person. So if you cannot love a person you
cannot trust the person.
each time you hear a partner saying I cannot trust him or her they such person
is looking one side and what side it infidelity. It is very rampant to say I do
not trust him or her and very uncommon for lovers to think deeply what trust
comprises in any relationship apart from them thinking of cheat. In a simple
statement what I am trying to establish here is that each a partner is saying
‘I do not trust my partner,’ there is no other thing than to say he or she is
dating someone outside.
They always never think of other aspect of trust. Although partner will claim to love but not trust, think deep, you do not love because if you do, you must surely trust. Vise versa, if you trust you will love because the two cannot do without the other. Which is one of the reason the experts say it is reciprocal, if you love your partner he or she would love you and if you trust the person so also the person will trust you because it is do on to others what you want them do to you.
In nutshell trust is a fragile thing that goes with love, if your partner has always trusted you and you cheat on him or her, there might be forgiveness but nothing like forget. Because it will always remain in back of your mind and make reference to it when need arises or in a situation. So for the trust to come back the love has to rebuild and it can take some lengthy periods before your partner relax and trust you again. Better still, it might not even happen again.
your partner’s trust in any relationship is always difficult when it is lost.
But only remedy to this is to sit down with your partner when you are both
relaxed and happy and not only happy but in a good mood. Look into his or her
eyes, accept what you have done, do not give excuses for your action, just give
him or her sincere apology and a promise of never or ever to do anything like
Through this ask for forgiveness and as well show remorse and let him or her know how deeply you care for the person. Finally, summon courage and ask what he or she expects you to do to regain the lost trust.
Author: Yunus Saliu