Lovelines,

In secret, I have been dating a guy for two years while he too is dating another girl and kept our relationship secret to her as well. I know that he is dating the girl before we started going out, then, I never care about it. But now I am dying of jealous whenever I see the girl around him. I now found it very uncomfortable and could not keep it to myself.

I have told him about this many times and because of this I wanted us to breakup. But he always wants me to give him time to sort thing out saying he loves and cannot let me go. I love him too, but he cannot love two ladies conveniently at the same time! He requested for more time in order to breakup with the lady. Should I continue to wait for him or move on with my life and find another one?

Matida

As a matured lady you know what you want in this secret relationship before you go into it. However, you have to be on your own and think of what you want from the relation. You should know that it is not an easy task to tell someone you love that you are done with him or just because of another found lover especially when there is no problem between two of you. Since the relationship is two years old I can only advice that you get his word and know if his intention in this relationship matches with yours. If it is opposite to your desire, you call it quit.

One thing is that, if you are the other lady how would you feel when a man you got no problem with come one day and say ‘it is over.’ Anyway you should know from begin that he will not be able to love two of you deeply as the same. Well, we all know that love is a friendship set on fire and when it is burning it take no precaution or think otherwise. That is why I do not blame you on this secret affair but you should have think twice after some months of the relationship before now. Call for further detail. Good luck!

We just broke up

Lovelines,

I just broke up with my boyfriend two days ago, up till now he did not call or text me since then. How can you judge him, please help?

Remmy

It is difficult to judge between you and this guy simply because I do not know exactly what had transpired between two of you. But whatever it might be I think it would be better you sit down and think about the whole issue. So if you still love him try to talk to him and ask why he did not give you a call since. Better still you can send him a text to say hi to him and wait for his reply. Good luck!

He is my heart, my soul

Lovelines,

For one and a half year I was dating a man between his late 20s and early 30s while am 18. I love him very much he is my heart, my soul, and everything. I have loved him, loving him and will always love him. The issue is that he told me that he is married. This I think he lied t just to chase me off him. He never visit, call, or text me even when I does he never reply. Instead of me to hate him I continue to love him more as the day pass by. What should I do?

Ancha

I think you should stop living in the world of illusion and stop being a dream lover. It might truly be everything to you because you dated for over a year or so but I think he done with you. By now if he is not married but I think he is ready to settle down and he has cross his mind not to marry you probably you do not worth his standard. Better still he never dated you for marriage but friendship and fun sake. He does not text, call or visits you because he does not want further closeness with you. So if you continue to look for how you will get closer or entangle him for date, consider yourself being cheap. What to do, forget and browse elsewhere for a man made for you. Good luck!

Simultaneous dating

Lovelines,

I really need to stop cheating on both of my girlfriends. For sometimes now I have been dating two girls simultaneously. But I want to stop cheating on them because I am ready to settle with one of the two girls. One of them which I started dating first is averagely okay before I later met the other lady that is rich and as well from a wealthy family. This latter one always blesses shares and showers me with gifts, money or properties from her family’s wealth every time without my request or demand for it.

And this has been going on for about eight months of our relationship now. But one truth is that she is not the lady I truly love with all my heart although I started dating her before I know her financial position. Sincerely, the first lady that I started dating first is the one I truly love with all my heart. We trust each other and above all love and understand ourselves. Definitely I want to discontinue dating the wealthy lady because I do not want to continue cheating on both of them. Is this a good idea and how can I tell her in order not to cause her any pain?

Jalamang

Since you have made a choice after you have dated the two of them and able to identify the one you really love and wanted to spend the rest of your life with, you need confidence and determination to confront the other lady. Once you are ready and finally make up your mind, invite him either to your place or meet in hers. Better still you can meet somewhere else that no one will interrupt your discussion with her. Open up with good remarks by letting her know how you appreciate her kindness, generosity and concern for you. Let her know the good changes she has brought or added to your life and your good feelings for her.

After all this, without mince world tell her that you had made a very hard decision that is troubling your mind and she has to forgive you. Say to her I do not know how to say or put it but you really want both of you to bring the relationship to an end because it is not going to work out. She might grow crazy, wild and confuse try to calm her down as nothing spoil. But one thing at that moment do not mention to her that you were dating other girl or love your first lover than her. She will leave or you leave depend on where you meat. It is going to be hard to say but it is better say out than hiding.

So later try to talk to her on phone or if she is trying to ask for the reason then you can let her know that before you met her there is someone you have both engage. In addition tell her that you find it difficult to give her maximum love and attention as you wish and you do not to continue cheating or pretending to her, so let her find a place in her heart to forgive you but there is nothing as good as friendship. For more detail of how to go about this call Lovelines. Good luck!

Because of job, no trust

Lovelines,

Could this be a stupid idea? Well I am 21 dating a boy who I madly loved. Unfortunately, thing started to change between us when I started a job in one of the government offices. Since I started my lover man never one day trusts me instead he insinuated that I might be or dating someone else. He stopped the good chatting and interaction between us. I have tried in many ways to convinced him but all to no avail. I want to stop the relation and wait for someone that will understand me; I do not know if it is a good Idea. Although, there is another guy that is interested in me, he loves me, too. I want to go out with him but I am afraid, I do not know what to do.

Sherry

Well, if your partner or boyfriend cannot trust you because of one thing or the other, then proof to him that you worth to trust and cherish. His not trusting you might be due to some information he found out about you. So if he knows some of your secrets he might found it difficult to trust you. One thing you should know is that some guys can get jealous more than women especially men that their wives are working in the office.

Some of them feel unsafe with the hope that men are chasing their wives or girlfriends. To your question, let him know how precious your job is to you. But if he fails to understand, remember you have your life to live after all both of you are on trial moment since you are not yet married. If the other guy meet your requirement and understand you give a trial. Above all, you need to follow your heart it is your life, do not be intimidated. Good luck!

I have no place in her heart

Lovelines,

A lady has told me that I have no place in her heart when I wooed her. She said ‘no’ simply because she has once dated a guy who did camp with us so she cannot again date another man in the group, whatsoever. I do not know about their dating then and if I did, I do not think there is anything wrong with us dating. Since she told me that I got no place in her heart if I want to forget about her she will call me. How can I persuade her to date me?

Asimaj

Well there is no harm in trying your luck with her. But it might still be difficult for you to win her love if she is a lady with dignity and pride. If still you want to pursue your goal with her then move away from your group or the camp you are, that might made her to consider you. One thing you should understand is that your group is not new to her and she knows everyone of you if not hundred per cent but 50 per cent in your doing and other things as relates with women and men affairs. So through your chatting she can see the positive and different sides of you compare to others, therefore be good friend. Good luck!

Make a choice

Lovelines,

I am a young queen. I have two lovers that truly love me and I deeply love them, too. However, I want to drop one and move on with the other. So to continue with one can you tell me what to do?

Mercy

This is your choice and call, first try to compare them with each other because you know what you want from a man that you want to call yours. If you still find it difficult to come out with what can give you a clue to make a choice among the two then take a step ahead. Put them into test after! Whoever pass your test is your choice, but be careful in doing this. Call Lovelines for more info on how to go about this. Good luck!

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