The difference between a relationship and friendship
Thursday, August 13, 2009
What is the difference between a close friendship and a close relation? Most of us believe that when friendship becomes stronger, it may turn into relationship.
The truth is different. Think about the kind of talk you have with your friends. You are always very open about your failures and shortcomings. You are not shy of talking about your problem and asking friends to help. In a close friendship, you expect to know everything about each other.
How about a relationship? Think about animals. They also show their best side to their mate. We human beings keep lot of secrets away from our partner.
We do not want to tell about our failures and shortcomings. We also try to impress our partner when we are in romance. This difference between friendship and relationship is very deep. We calculate our moves in a relationship but are very open in a friendship. We are like a child in friendships but behave like an adult in relationships.
If you remain inside your boundaries in a relationship and not try to change it into a close friendship, you will have longer relationships. Telling all does not help in relationships.
Are you a nice guy?
How would you describe yourself- a nice guy or adventurous, funny, alpha male? It is important to find out how people perceive you? What women think about you? Why am raising this issue- because it may matter a lot when you are asking a woman for a relationship with you.
While talking, you may find that women say that they prefer a nice, home loving guy, but look around carefully. Think about which of your friends got a woman of their choice- was that friend known as a nice guy or something else? There may a subconscious appeal for adventurous guy in a woman. Or she may be looking for somebody more different- most popular guy, a sportsman, a funny guy, a strong man and so on.
Do not get blinded by what the woman you desire says. Find out what she REALLY wants. That may be different than the description she gives.
Author: Yunus S. Saliu