Three women are pregnant for me: Is this blessing or a curse?
Friday, May 11, 2012
I would like you to please as usual take your time to look into my predicament and advice me on what to do. It is over a decade that I got married to my wife and since then we got no child to show in the marriage. Pressures from both families are too much on us. My wife who cannot withstand the pressure much more like me always picked quarrel with me over this our childless issue.
To tell you how we love each other, our joy was unlimited the day we finally tied the nuptial knot as husband and wife. Our first night together and subsequent was promising. After the Holy Month last year everything continued to change that I cannot control it again. This is because my wife was shifting the blame on me that our childlessness problem is from me.
She said this probably out of annoyance when a lady friend answered my call on my behalf during one of my trips. Coincidentally the lady who picked this call is well known to her when I described her to her on my return from the trips. Despite the fact that I have nothing special or hidden with the woman, since then my wife changed completely and said I always travel with a woman. She said that is what is responsible for my not making her pregnant. True or false, I finally become guilty of her insinuation.
She held on to this that I was so confused until I explained to one of our family close friend who is also her associate. This lady also faced similar problem like ours before her husband passed away.
Since the demised of her husband she never remarried nor have a child. The more my wife continued to be the king of the house the more this lady become my succour and calms me down to patient. My wife trusts me but I trusted her more because she never looked out. But our problem becomes deeper as she started and sometimes denied me going to bed with her.
Sincerely, one day I came back home and I was so erotic and really wanted to have a nice time with her but she denied me and said ‘today is not my day with you, leave me alone and go to my rivals maybe they will solve your problem.’ She actually made up her mind that day that I do not want any problem.
I decided to drive round to free myself from her. This was where I got it wrong because at West Field I met a long time girlfriend and decided to give her a lift. Briefly I dropped her somewhere in West Coast Region where she lives. As an old friend and lover I collected her number but never called her again until later.
I was desperately in need of someone to talk to on my wife’s latest act of denying me bed activities but no one I can report her to than this our friend. One thing I will say is that anytime I am with this lady since my wife started this abnormally act I am always happy and it is like I am free of my burden or have no problem so far.
Although I have once helped her when her business went down and since then she become closer to the family. And since my wife’s problem continued to come out in numerous ways our friendship become deeper. I can visit her anytime without problem at her personal house.
One day my wife begged me to drop some money for her and I went to her house. I did not know how it happened but I ended up on her bed. We both enjoyed this moment and we never want it to happen again because we thought it was fantasies but it happened more times after that.
Within a short time my wife suspected and tried to trace me when I was driving to her house one day. Immediately I noticed this I changed my intention and direction; I called my old timer that I once dropped in her house before for the first time since we met. She responded positively and wanted me to visit.
Thanked God it was a Saturday evening I remembered very well that I sped off and my wife lost the trace, I ended up not only slept on my old timer’s bed but passed the night with her.
You can fool people every time not all the time, our family friend announced to me that she is pregnant, the same day my wife was very happy with me and tried to reawaken the long time died romance between us. Breaking news, she said ‘now, the war is over, at last ‘am pregnant.’ She said this while I was thinking of what to do about the first news.
When I heard this I was half way back to life still worried of what to tell her and how to convince the other of her intention because she is ready to keep the baby. Everything happened so fast as the latter-my old girlfriend just last month called to inform me that she is seven weeks pregnant, too.
I am in problem because I do not know if this is a blessing or a curse. Three women at the same time, the children are not my problem but the women and the circumstances surrounding the situation, am I a betrayal, I do not know what to do!
Before anything I would say Almighty Allah never curse any of His creature instead He bless His creature. The blessing might not come at appropriate time but if we live longer it will definitely come which are one of the reasons one must not loose hope. I would like everyone to sympathise with Kisima and send in your opinion prior Lovelines opinion in next week’s edition. Your suggestion to Kisima will be forwarded to him and not just one but many to help him out of this. Good luck!
Author: Yunus Saliu